come on i been keeping something bottled up inside of me i have been affaid to let any one no. see iam about to conceive a baby but the baby dad has no idea i would rather not tell him its his because of our circumstances. i know that i was foolish enough to get involed but i was lonely it only took one nght and now i got this blessing is it wrong not to let the other person no its his??
2007-02-05 07:00:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you havent conceived yet theres not a problem... just use a rubber from now on
2007-02-05 07:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait...
You're about to conceive a baby? Or you are pregnant? In any case, the baby's dad has every right to know that is his child. This child may pull things together for you two, or he may not want it at all. Either way, you cannot rightfully keep this information from the father. So what are your circumstances? Is he abusive? Did you guys break up? Consider how serious your "circumstances" are. Is he going to do something drastic if he finds out you're pregnant? Or is he the kind of guy that will just accept it? If you think your child's future (as well as your own) is safe with the father knowing, then you HAVE to tell him! But if you think he will endanger the child, just leave. Don't hang on to him.
So basically...
1- Consider the circumstances
a) How is he going to take the news? Are you safe?
2- Consider your options
a) Do you have relatives to move in with?
b) Is marriage even an option?
c) Can you go it alone?
3) Act. You have to get the courage. Pray about it, then do SOMETHING. You can't let a problem like this go. You have to be active in fixing a future for your child, whether the father is involved or not.
Good luck.
2007-02-05 15:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by whoops! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make that decision based on what kind of father you think he might be. Will he be abusive? Will he be good to the baby, and help pay for things? My advice is that you should tell him, and then seek as much help from others as you can. Have you thought about giving the baby up for adoption? That might be the most unselfish and loving thing you could do. There are alot of places that will help unwed mothers through pregnancy. Look in your phone book. And if you have parents who will help, tell them too.
2007-02-05 15:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Aims4usa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,because you need him to join in on this blessings,no
matter what the circumstances is you need to tell him, maybe
he Will be happy or mad, but mad if you don,t tell him and then
you have to ask yourself do u want to raise alone? which is
alot harder pls you haven,t given him a chance you have to see
first then if he dosen,t want the child,or be there for you
then make the decision to go child support, because that is the
last choice. and nextottime just think before getting involve, because
you don,t wanna continue to get pregnant because of loneliness
let this be lesson to your ife and get your life together.
2007-02-05 15:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by Tella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me tell the baby's daddy right now cause if u don't things r going to get hard for u in the future.
2007-02-05 15:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong. Whether you keep the baby or not, you need to tell him.
2007-02-05 15:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by isis8x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your decision, just remember if you are keeping it a secret because you don't want to hurt anybody, good for you, but if you are keeping it cuz you want to use it as a weapon later, shame on you.
2007-02-05 15:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by dianabarff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋