minus his depression. I was there for him for much of it. He never was treated professionally. WE are 29 yrs old and he had gotten a one night stand pregnant before we met. When I helped him come to terms with it, he left me to be with the mother of his child. She played her part well, I am sure she manipualted him into thinking he should have been there,& what he missed out on. He turned so coldly to me,& said hurtful things, I couldnt believe. Like that we were never really together & did I think it was really going to work between us!! WE had nothing but love for each other. I couldnt beleive he was saying this to me for complete trash. Now, he found out she lied to him about her childhood saying she was raped, molested. & he ended the relationship with her. But now he cant and wont even talk to me now. First I want to know how could he turn on me like that? Is it part of depression? at least he could have been respectful, I was shocked.Also, do you think he is ashamed, emabarrased?
2007-02-05 06:57:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
1. Don't fantasize about what the relationship was not. Obviously, it was not. You are trying to craft it into something that makes sense, and it won't make sense until you don't care about it anymore.
2. He was depressed. When someone is emotionally unstable, that means the person is not ready for a meaningful relationship.
3. He was a loser, getting a one night stand pregnant and then going through all this nonsense. Forget about him.
2007-02-05 07:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by fail r us 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously wrong when you say "We had nothing but love for each other" -- if that were true he would have stayed with you in the first place, he never would have said all those hurtful things to you, and even through this whole mess if you really were his soulmate he'd be in contact with you now. The depression may have affected his thought processes and may explain why he turned and said all those hurtful things to you, but the bottom line is he has clearly made up his mind that you are not the one for him. Do yourself a favor and move on. You deserve someone who is going to love you as much as you love him and is going to put as much into the relationship as you do.
2007-02-05 15:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by sarge927 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no idea, and may never know whatever she told him to get him away from you. It may very well be something she said to him (true or not), or he just may think that you represent a part of his life he may want to forget.
This is so not from depression. People that are depressed will not go out of their way to be nasty to you and never talk to you again.
This sounds like manipulation. And it also sounds like this other chick is a master of it...after all she did it to your ex.
2007-02-05 15:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by frenchie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't ashamed, he should be!!!
Consider yourself to be lucky to be out of that relationship. You deserve better.
Put him out of your mind. Mr Right might be coming down the street as we speak.
Good luck!!!
2007-02-05 15:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever she told him about being raped...is probably a lie, just so she can have him. i mean her being raped is possible, but i doubt it, and why hes doing all this to you is because of her...she tricked him into thinking that the kids his...sorry
2007-02-05 15:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by jaysonlanglois 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM ALON AND LET HIM FIGURE THINGS OUT FOR HIMSELF AND IF HE CAN WORK THINGS OUT WITH HIS CHILDS MOTHER THEN LET HIM FOR THE CHILDS SAKE
2007-02-05 15:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by The Shoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋