I really like this guy (we'll call him E) we're kinda friends and he's nice and sweet and we have so many things in common but he won't ask me out because his dork of a cousin (we'll call him J)has had a crush on me since like kindergarten and he won't let it go. J sometimes stocks me and follows me to class and waits for me after school like everyday but he annoys the heck out of me. I really like E and i tryed to ask him to the sweethearts dance but he sayed no because of his cousin. How Do I Tell J I Don't Like Him And To Get Over Me, And How Can I Convince E To Ask Me Out?
Please Help
P.S. Why do i have to like such loyal, sweet guys
2007-02-05 06:53:17 · 17 answers · asked by kacilaine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would advise you to be nice to J, take the time to pull him aside and talk to him for a second. Let him know that you are flattered that he likes you in a very nice way. Let him know you apreciate the fact that he is trying because he really must like you if he (a man) is willing to loose his pride for a girl. I hope you understand what I am saying. Think of it this way, J likes you and is probably crushed for you, just LIKE you are crushed for E. You would feel lower if E told you that he doesn't like you and that you are annoying. So when you tell J make sure you do it with a smile so he isn't crushed. I would advise you hanging out with J when you are with friends if you want to so that you can remain friends and so that it doesn't hurt him. By accomplishing this, then you are free from J, not only free from him bothering you but free because you don't feel bad. Once J backs away from you then if E really does like you, he'll move in.
P.S Don't show E that you like him so much (when you pass him down the hall just smile and hold your eye contact for longer than you normally would (this is to let him know that you are still interested but absolutely won't because you've moved on kind of thing) Or if you are with a group of friends and he passes by don't stop him to talk to him , just carry on and act like he is not even there. Also act like you are having fun. This tells him you are a strong girl and will do fine without him.
Good Luck!
Ani
2007-02-05 07:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to stink to hear, but honestly it's the truth sweetie - if he's not calling you, asking you out, and said no to you to go to the dance, and made up some stupid excuse about his cousin, then he's just not that into you. Trust me, when a guy realy likes a girl, he'll do whatever it takes to be with her. If he's not doing that, lose him. There's someone else who's probably watching you, and liking you, and wanting to aske you out, but won't because he sees that you're tied up in all that mess! Boys don't mature as fast as girls do. I'm sure "J" might be a great guy, but he's not ready for you!
2007-02-05 14:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Aims4usa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a real lesson, your heart feels as J's does. It's karma. Karma is real. Not that you have to give J anything, but saying how he annoys you when he likes you so much will be the exact lesson in store for you through E. You don't have to go out with J but you don't have to find any kind of way to tell him you don't like him, he's done no harm, he can't help his heart. E might be looking for ways to tell you something not so nice as well. What I'm trying to say is be nice and it will all flow back to you. You are real young, start to learn how to be nice, calm and accepting of everything and everybody. live and let live, you will see what comes around. try that my friend.
God bless us all...
2007-02-05 15:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you're in a sticky area with cousins, mama. if i were you i'd just lay it on the line and ask this guy out and tell him you have no interest whatsoever in his cousin. after that the ball is in his court. there's only so much you can do if the guy is straight loyal to his family and wouldn't think of causing a commotion between the two of them. if he still says no, you have to move on.
2007-02-05 15:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by sugarbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not date some new boy friends altogether? Maybe it's time for a change in your life. You may be too hung up with too small of a group of friends and need to get out and try something new.
2007-02-05 14:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by bobweb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is to talk to J. Tell him how you feel about E. It might upset him, but it's what's best for you. If you don't like him, you need to let the guy know. or else he will keep stalking you. Then, go talk to E. See what will happen then.
P.S. i have your luck about loyal and sweet guys. =]
2007-02-05 15:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by <3 me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is your best policy. Let everyone know whats up and have it in the open. If E and J are on the same page and are aware of the situation, it might make things easier.
2007-02-05 14:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by Metal Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell "J" that you are just not interested in him that way but you are intested in his cousin "E". And tell "E" that you respect that he is loyal to his cousin but its time that he mans up and does the right thing. Its at least worth a shot
2007-02-05 14:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by jenj2569 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,you need to start by telling J you dont like him, never will and to leave you alone (but in a nicer way of course) and if he accepts that and does leave you alone, if E does like he should ask you out, Good Luck!
2007-02-05 14:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
liking loyal sweet guys is the best way, going for bad boys leads to heartbreak.
Tell J straight to back off and move away you dont want his attention.
Tell e you like him lots and he needs to ignore j's attempt to woo you.
2007-02-05 15:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋