My girlfriend said that she needed some time ( for herself) i asked her are we on a break..... and she said no ..... Ok now i understand that she feels prob sufocated but see even after this time thing or even during .... everytime when i ask her out im gonna thing am i suffocating her ... is it to much time spend togheter ...... I think if 2 people love each other they should solve their problems talking not taking time apart ( i tried talking but everytime when i try we get in a fight) im on the verge to breakup but i dont want to feel sorry after i do it..........
I would like to know if there are any guys that were put on a break and what happen .... and girls if u put a guy on a break and what happen ....,.
And im thinking that after this time apart im going to wonder all the time should we go out today ..... did we spend to much time this week ....
2007-02-05 06:46:41 · 11 answers · asked by mircea b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she is asking for time, but not saying that you guys are on a break, she might just be going through some things outside your relationship that she needs time outside of it to review and look at.
If you are asking her if you are spending too much time with her, then the answer is probablly yes.
If this is a new relationship (under 6 months) then you should make sure you take some time away as much as you are together. Encourage her to go out with her girlfriends or look into that activity that she was talking about. By doing that, then she knows that you are ok with her having a life, and it will give you time to do the same.
Relationships are about give and take, you never want to compltly rely on each other for entertainment.
Maybe thats what she is afraid of...
Give her some time (about a week or so) then ask if you guys can meet up for a fun day at the park or movies or something that you both have a mutral intrest in. Remind her that you too have a life outside of her but VALUE the time that you both spend together.
Good luck
2007-02-05 06:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by *meh* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you give someone the space they want they very early on start to miss you. Let her know that you understand and that you will respect her wish for time apart. Tell her to take all the time she needs and when she is ready to then give you a call. As hard as this is to do, you must do this in order to undue her feeling that the relationship is suffocating her. The only way to ensure that you will not continue to suffocate her in the future is to leave room for each other to do other things with other people. By this I do not mean going out with the opposite sex on a date, I mean she should be able to go shopping with her girlfriends, or to a movie, or to do something she enjoys. You too should be encouraged to spend time with friends and family doing things that interest you. It is just a way of balancing the time we spend with one another and with others. Good luck to you both!
2007-02-05 06:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my early relationships, we took "breaks" that she initiated. I hated them, didn't know what qualified as a "break" or how much time to spend apart, how often I should call.
In my later relationships, we took "breaks" that she initiated. I never called, never "ended it for good" and gave her space until she came back to me. That always worked out better for me.
There's really no reason to freak out about taking time apart. Some problems do need to be discussed and worked out, but other times people need space. It's not all-or-nothing, and time and space away from each other can be really healthy. Even married people need it sometimes.
2007-02-05 06:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people need time apart. This happened with my boyfriend and I at the six month mark. It sucks.It's basically the other persons way of deciding if they want to continue the relationship. I would just wait it out and see what she says. She may break up with you anyways and if she does just move on. Give her one week. And honestly if she wants time apart again break up with her.
2007-02-05 06:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by over the moon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the time that she needs. Let her be the one who calls you back. I disagree about being able to solve problems by talking them out all the time. If she's not ready to talk to you because she needs time, you'll only end up arguing - like you said - and make the problem worse.
2007-02-05 06:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by mcpouches 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when a girl asks for time then just give it to her. I mean dont start thinking bad about it but just give her the space that she needs. I know that sometimes I have to ask for space myself because I dont want to end up saying something that I dont mean to say and then things really start getting bad so just give her what shes asking for and then slowly get things back to normal.
2007-02-05 06:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by cheergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is pushing you away...in the past, i have used the whole 'i need space' line to prepare a guy for a break-up...it is hard to hurt someones feelings she may be trying to get you to do the dirty work.
i was thrown for a loop once when they guy point blank asked if that was what i wanted to happen...'are you pushing me away to try to get me to break-up with you?'
when you are happy in the relationship you make every effort to see the other person...
2007-02-05 06:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are very independent and dont want to spend our life with a guy. I mean would you want to spend your whole life in the make-up department when there are cars to look at??? (unless u like make-up) but just let her think, give her time,and dont do anything stupid! it will run its course so let it be. good luck
2007-02-05 06:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by Bean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it relatively is relatively no longer your determination on climate or no longer she must be with you it relatively is her determination so ask her if she needs to break up and then tell her which you do no longer or you may desire to ask her what your doing incorrect so as which you would be able to advance on it to get the courting going lower back.
2016-10-01 11:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by tuberman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking so much, it will drive you crazy. Whatever happens, happens
2007-02-05 06:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by Buddha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋