Is sex important in a relationship before marriage?

Question

not if it's good or bad.... is it important. I'm not asking this bcause I want to. It's just I have to defend it in a debate

Answer 1

I feel sex is important before marriage. I definitely want to make sure that we are sexually compatible before I say I do. You need to know how selfish a person is in bed or if they are willing to work on sexual issues in order for you to connect sexually. I would hate to marry someone to find out that the sex is only good because I love them. I'm sorry, but love can only take you so far. I need that animalistic, passionate, mind blowing sex. If he can't give me that, or won't, then I need to hit the road because he is obviously not my perfect match. I feel my soul mate will be my perfect match in and out of the bedroom. Some people say sex is not important, but I say that is a bunch of hooey! If it wasn't important, people wouldn't cheap when things got routine, tedious, or bad in the bedroom.

However I do believe that girls are having sex at way too young of an age! I waited in that aspect. I was 20 before my first time. I made sure I was with someone that I was happy to give that gift too. We ended up not getting married, but that's ok with me. When I first had sex with my fiance. Even though it wasn't my first time, it was still very special and I was still giving him the gift of myself.

Answer 2

No,sex is not important before marriage .I've always said why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free? I was in a three year relationship with my boyfriend.He was in the Marines at the time ,so the average person would assume that when he would come down we would have alot of sex ,but we didn't never!And now that three year relationship has turned into a marriage.And I am so glad i was able to share that intimate boding with my husband .Some people would say it doesn't matter but it makes a big differences and I'm glad i waited for my husband.

Answer 3

I agree with above, you should do it before hand.

I had multiple partners before I married and I am very thankful that I did because I was able to compare what I liked and didnt like. I know that sounds awful, but it helped alot. I truly thought that I loved one man and we hadnt had sex, we had a relationship that began as friendship and developed into a girlfriend boyfriend deal, it went on for years and when we finally slept together, it was not good. He and I were not sexually compatible and I would never have been satisfied if I had gone on to marry him.

Although I think its great if you wait, I see nothing wrong with having sex before hand for this reason:how will you know what is good if you dont have anything or anyone to compare it to? If God forbid you get divorced one day and then sleep with someone else and have truly great sex, wouldnt you be sad that you had missed out on a great experience for all those years.

Seriously, I know how bad this sounds, as I am writing it I am cringing at how callous I am being, but its the truth.

Answer 4

As a rule, I'd say abstainence is very important before marriage, this should be the time to getto know the person, not the body
parts. Regardless, of what may be said, I truly believe that once
married, those that saved the intimate celebration til then are
glad they did. however, on the other side, it is most definitely
a decision that shouldn't be entered into lightly and leaving society
out of the matter, be soberly made by the individuals involved.

Answer 5

I think it is extremely important to have sex before your married. Lets say you don't do it and you wait until after your married. What happens if when you two do get together your not sexually compatible?? For marriage to work you have to be compatible in all aspects of life. Look at that sex and the city episode. Charlotte waited and then ended up getting divorced because things didn't work in that area.

Answer 6

i think it depends on the rest of the relationship. i mean, obviously you're not going to marry someone if the sex is great and the rest of it is all bad and you're not going to not marry someone if the sex is mediocre. i think compatability is key and the sexual needs of the other person should be as important as your own. you have to be willing to compromise your own feelings for the sake of your significant other (and vice versa). and if you're not, but you only find that out after marriage, well then you're up the creek without a paddle, so to speak, and the sexual component of your relationship is probably miserable. i think sex is important in a relationship, regardless of whether or not it's leading to marriage.

Answer 7

It's not good to have sex before you get married. I am very religious about this issue. I'm a christian and it says in the Bible that you're not supposed to have sex before marriage. You need to "save yourself" for that special someone that you're going to marry. Your spouse will be really proud if you wait until you're married to have sex.

Answer 8

It shouldn't be. The person your with should understand that when your ready you'll let them know. sex is a good thing in a relationship but never rush into it unless your completely ready. if they dont understand then marriage should not be on your mind.

Answer 9

It takes alot of fortitude to WAIT. Sex without true understanding of self and the power of love, can mutate, and change into something hideous when you mix sex without first waiting for love to bond two hearts as one.

Answer 10

Only in the sense that this is even more serious than buying a car. You need to test drive this model and be sure everything works, and is to your liking ;)