i asked out this girl the other night and she said yes. i later recieved a text saying that she doesnt know if she should have said yes. i convinced her to give me a try. (we have been hanging out w/ each other for about 8 months) the thing is, why would she have second guessed herself. is there a chance she might have no feelings for me and just being nice. im going to see her in 2 days and thinking of buying her a rose and writing a poem to win her heart. is this a good thing to do. got any suggestions
2007-02-05 06:13:39 · 12 answers · asked by Cloud Strife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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Ok... I'm gonna hit your world hard, so hang on to your chair.
You seem like a nice guy. You are. That's a problem. You heard the saying "nice guys finish last"? It's a fact. Here's what you do.
Take her out this time (even though you already messed up, so it's possible that she won't). Don't buy her a rose. Don't make a poem. This will communicate too much interest and she will label you as her stalker.
Go out bowling, arcade... something that doesn't involve restaurant and/or movies. Also avoid extremely romantic spots. Save those for 3rd date or more.
Next, IF she goes out with you, invite her once more for a weekend somewhere (anywhere... at this point it won't matter), then cancel some 2 days in advance. Make up some story about you being chased by the government or whatever, as long as you let her know that you can't make it (don't be TOO apologetic for it, but let her know IN A LOOSE WAY that you will make it up later). This should ease you in, and 2nd and 3rd dates will *almost* be guaranteed.
2007-02-05 06:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by RivatricHistrionic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A single rose might be a good gesture. The poem might be too much on the first date. What I would suggest, where she had second thoughts like you said, go out, no pressure on the relationship, just have fun. Do things spontaneously after your planned evening (after dinner and movies), walk the beach, park, just out of the blue things. The fun will keep her coming back and then maybe, maybe, your personality will win her over!
2007-02-05 06:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like how generic the rose and poem thing is. Do something that isn't that typical and that generic. Women like guys who actually put thought into what they plan. If she sees a rose and a poem she will think you didn't really put that much thought into it. Do a different kind of flower or do something that you know she is into. Be different from the other guys out there and that will win her heart.
2007-02-05 06:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by dogcrazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be questioning if she likes you in that way. The rose and poem are really nice, however, usually it works the opposite way. Sorry, it just does. It is a tough one to figure out but girls want a bit of a challange but not TOO much. The key is you don't want to come accross to desperate.
Once you are sure she likes you, then you can do those romantic gestures.
2007-02-05 06:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she felt bad and couldn't say no to your face, maybe she went home told her friends and they said, eww him?, maybe she got her period - in short only she knows why she second guessed her decision to go out with you. I think the rose is nice but skip the poem. First dates don't need poems, that just looks psycho - write it if you feel you must but save them to spring on her after your in a relationship.
What you should do is explain to her that you like her and wanted to go out with her, but you also value her as a friend and will respect her decision if she feels it isn't right.
In short go on the date, be yourself, be honest, and see what happens - do not try to be something you are not or force your feelings on her.
Good luck.
2007-02-05 06:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by mraandmisse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not want to go out with you. She might just said yes to be nice. See what happens. Bring her a rose but I'm not sure about the poetry. If you know she likes it then go on and give it to her. I would just give her flowers and then see what happens on the date.
2007-02-05 06:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it and then you will know by the way she responds, since this is personal. If she acts weird, she probably doesn't have the same feelings, if she likes it truly, you will know. Never be afraid to follow your heart. If it doesn't work, at least you know you tried.
2007-02-05 06:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by confuzed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww that's cute yeah that's a good thing to do! maybe she was hurt in the past and was a lil scared to try again.
2007-02-05 06:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea shes on the fence and she could fall either side but if u want her to fall into your arms then do something stupidly romantic cuz all women love it when a guy puts himself out there...also all women second, third, fourth and fifth guess themselves its just how they do.
2007-02-05 06:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's pitying you. if you have to convince a girl to give you a chance, then you're sounding deperate. whenever a guy sounds desperate, GIRLS HAVE US WHERE THEY WANT US. one thing leads to another and they'll manipulate us, lead us on... etc
2007-02-05 06:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by g13player 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋