My mum is a smoker, it may not be heavy but it used to be and I'm worried about her, aswel as her drinking! I've tried everything from bursting into tears in front of her and telling her how much I care to stealing her cigarrettes! Then she just stole my allowance to pay for some more! I've even told her that either the cigarrettes go, or I do! She just doesn't care! I can smell it in bed when she's smoking downstairs. My dad's much help either, he says I need to treat her with more respect and that what I'm doing is unacceptable, please help me!
2007-02-05 06:07:33 · 8 answers · asked by liljohnirwin 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
When she's smoking take a tissue and let her inhale from the cigarette and then exhale into the tissue. Then tell her that's what she's putting into her lungs. Also, start "pretending" to smoke her cigarettes in front of her. When she says not to, tell her why not? she does it.
2007-02-05 06:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by mrb1017 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to smoke, she's addicted and therefore able to justify anything at all in order to carry on smoking, even killing herself unlimately and giving you all the grief under the sun. You'd be amazed at what people can deny when they have an addiction. The big problem is far off whereas all day every day for the rest of her life she has to face wanting a cigarette and having to deny herself. She just cant do it. The only way she would go through that to give up is if she really really wanted to give up. You could try harsher tactics to make her want to give up but at the end of the day you also have the personal freedom issue to contend with, you can show her but you cant make her. Give her all the info they publish, tell her how it is affecting YOUR health too and how you dont appreciate it. You could try showing her how disgusted and annoyed you are that she carries on with her filthy smelly habit that is costing taxpayers money to fund her healthcare and cleanup of all the *** butts in the streets etc, you can tell her if she's smoking you WILL not be around her, eg you'll leave the room or better yet refuse to even go into her house if she has smoked in there. Because she may have the right to kill herself with the things, but you have the right to protect yourself too. But beware taking this hard line, she may give YOU up instead of the cigarettes. I have seen it happen.
2016-03-29 06:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you want what is best for your mom, and that's great, however stopping smoking is extremely hard to do. I am a smoker(for 35years) and I have been trying to quit. I purchased a product called Chantix, it worked great for about 6weeks and then I relapsed. Refilled again and tried for 8wks, haven't completely quit(smoke3-5 a day)but I am on the road to recovery. It is very very hard,especially if there is another smoker in the home.Please help your mom in a more kind way,she knows it's bad for her and she knows the health risks,it's the addiction that is so hard to break. The Chantix medicine is very expensive($294.00)but I had insurance that helped dramatically,so see if your mom can try it. You said she is a drinker as well. Al-anon is a great support group for teenagers and family of alcoholics that do not want to quit drinking. Check in your phone book or online for more info. Your mom seems to be in need of some emotional support,do your mom and dad get along okay? This is something you can talk about at Al-anon also. Good luck.
2007-02-05 06:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need to treat her with more respect. She didn't STEAL your allowance. You stole her cigarettes so she took money from you to buy more. Besides your parents gave you the money--they can't steal it.
If she doesn't want to stop smoking there is NOTHING you can do. She knows how you feel about it. Stop giving her a hard time and she will quit when she's ready. Leave her alone already. Same thing with drinking. Hopefully one day whe will get into AA.
http://www.aa.org
2007-02-05 06:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you'll miss her in a few years after she's been diagnosed with cancer or emphysema. Ask her to smoke outside because unlike her, you care about your health. Tell her that smoking causes wrinkles along with cancer and heart problems. Tell her that you love her and want to see her live a long healthy life and that watching her die from cigarettes is a party you want to miss.
2007-02-05 06:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by spitonapit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get her active and tell her that you want her to stay healthy to live a long life. Tell her that if she smokes because of stress or anxiety, you will try to help reduce that stress. Go walking, play a game of ball, go to the Y and swim workout so on and so forth. Good luck
2007-02-05 06:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by kool kid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I am an Italian girl... excuse me I don't speak English very well ...
However, also I am in your same situation. Both my parents smoke I have tried of everything but I have lost all the hopes. Against them nothing cannot be done!!! CIAO...
2007-02-05 06:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry it is unlikely you can make someone else give up anything. They need to decide for themselves you can't give up for them. Gentle persuasion is all you can do to try and help. Smoking is I am afraid about as addictive as heroin.
2007-02-05 17:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Frank 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋