and because i won't approach them, i get bored and want to go home again. And then I get home and think about what I should have done, and the vicious cycle continues.
2007-02-05 05:50:12 · 11 answers · asked by Jason 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are probably shy and won't let yourself loosen up enough to have a good time. Most girls worth meeting usually wait for the guy to make the first move. Subconsciously, you may be feeling rejected by girls not approaching you and it puts a damper on your mood. Then you feel like going home. Read up on some body language books to make sure you are making your self look approachable to the opposite sex, us girls are finely tuned to pick up on a guy's body language and whether or not we feel he is someone we care to approach. If you are too shy to make the first move, buy a girl a drink and asked the waitress to tell her that you found her interesting and that the drink was from you. Most women will at the very least come to the man and thank them for the drink as It always works with me, and then you may start your conversation from there. Say something like I find you very interesting or compliment her on a nice feature and introduce yourself. Good luck and have fun!
2007-02-05 06:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean, and mnay guys go through this. You don't talk to them when your out because you don't know how to work the dating game yet. Which, first, you don't know how to approach them without coming off lame. Secondly, you're not sure how to break the ice with interesting conversation. Third, your not sure how to handle rejection when and if it happens. Fourth, you may not know how to get involved in a relationship or a date without getting too attached too quickly. So because of these worries, you don't talk to them. You get bored and go home, then think about girls again and wish you had said something to one.
That is the essence of the dating game. Learn how to do these things, and you will be able to stay out there and work it, and get numbers and dates.
2007-02-05 05:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you are shy! Why don't start working on this little by little. Before you go out, set yourself a goal. For example: tonight I will approach one girl, say hi, one or two comments about the place, the people or about her, introduce myself and ask her name.
once you succeed at that, you set a greater task, such as specifically let her know that you got interested and would like to get her number.
By practicing, you will feel more comfortable and secure. Eventually it will come natural.
I suggest that in the beginning you choose girls that you are not really interested in. Remember, it is just for practice. Once you are comfortable, you will be able to approach those girls you really like without fear.
We always get Nos, it is part of life, but what really counts is the Yeses that come once in a while!
good luck
2007-02-05 06:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thing is you are "scared" of rejection, but the thing is you'll never know if you dont try. Come on ask that chick you been eyeing from down the end of the bar.room.
The worst that could happen is that she says no, but dont let that hold you back. This doesnt mean to be too persistent that its annoying, just kinda balance it out.
Also, before you make your move, look at body language and see if you too caught her eye, if she smiles, then prepare for final approach.
2007-02-05 05:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by arctiK_weasle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your putting too much pressure on yourself. If you go out with the intention to meet a woman, you could probably meet 10.
If your going out with the intention to hook up with your next life love: You're going home alone!
Go out to meet people. Cool, nice, genuine people. Male, female or other. Meet even more people through the people you meet. Maybe there's a girl or guy in that group that you could be interested in? Maybe one of the people you meet will have someone they want you to meet or be interested in you.
You should be going out to have fun & meet new people, not to hook up and find a relationship.
Good Luck
2007-02-05 06:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like u would like someone to share
your free time with, but u also enjoy being alone.
So just make friends u can talk to and go out with,
once in a while without having a commitment,
so when u want to be alone u can be.
2007-02-05 05:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean, i am on the other end of this. i want to go out and meet guys, but when it comes down to it, i chicken out. let me know when you get a good answer, so i can figure out why i do it too
2007-02-05 05:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not a guy but I would say you're fairly content with the life you have but you THINK you should be out getting girls, just relax, enjoy sports or whatever it is, and the right girl will pop up when you least expect it,
2007-02-05 05:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you want the relationship without having to do the work to get one? yes?
2007-02-05 05:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wish you are my ffriend, try to be smart boy. Go for what you want and you will get it, try all your best to talk and things will flow. wishing you the best, you are the best go fo it.
2007-02-05 06:01:41 · answer #10 · answered by Dutchie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋