my boyfriend says that now that he is unemployed he is not comfortable being in a relationship whats that?

Answer 1

It sounds like his ego has been shattered. Most men feel very inadequate if they are unemployed. Even if the job situation isn't his fault, he is temporarily on shaky ground financially and pyschologically. Why don't you just relax and remain supportive. Tell him that you understand why he may want to take a break from the personal commitment while he directs all his energies into finding a job. Let him know that you're there if he ever wants to talk or just grab a cup of coffee and brainstorm. If things break forver, then that's okay for both of you - it wasn't meant to be. If I'm right and this is just a "breather", he will truly appreciate you even more and will be back for good!

Answer 2

I met this woman on-line from England and since I decided after 7 months on-line that I wanted to go there to see her in person. I was short of money and unemployed and I felt my self esteem was low when I tried to have fun with her. I'm used to having a good job, money and paying my own way but she paid for the trip and I felt weird there. I even felt odd trying to have sex with her. The whole thing boiled down to having a positive attitude in life, in which this case I was negative, unsure of myself or lost.
She was a school teacher and had the summer off and I felt embarrassed when she was paying all the time. I did have some money but I hadn't planned on going to England. If it was the other way around I would of been happy to foot the expense. It's a guy's ego thing!

Answer 3

Some men will feel inadaquate,
like they are not man enough if
they don't have a job.

Just reassure him that it doesn't matter to u,
if that is the case.
U can enjoy ea others company without
having to spend a dime.

Or if u would like to go some where
and u don't mind paying.
Tell him that also, so u can continue the relationship,
if that is your wish.

Answer 4

He in uncomfortable because in society, it is the boyfriends hob to pay for his girlfriend. If he doesnt have the cash to do so, he will feel insecure and would think of himself as a loser.

What you need to do is to never ask to buy or do anything that involves money, even if you have the cash to pay because he will feel degraded.

Do things that arnt expensive or dont require money to show him you dont care and still like him regardless of his situation.

Answer 5

There is a tremendous amount of pressure on men to take the lead role. We expect and are expected to provide for our date/gf. He probably sees embarassment ahead for not being able to take you out/care for you in the way he views his role. He probably thinks that it's more fair to you than having you care for him (he wouldn't want to swap roles its a manhood issue)

A man's job is more than a way to earn money. It classifies him in society and is the major status symbol. If a man can take pride in what he does he has already accomplished a major feat. If he is embarrassed of what he does it can lead to other problems. "How Can I take care of you when I can't take care of myself?" is a thought that pervades every unemployed man's mind.

Answer 6

Men are very egotistical and by him being umeomlyoed he might feel less of a man or he could just full of himself but u know him better.

Answer 7

as a man I say he is felling like less of a man for losing a job and you can do better. He doesnt mean that but in his mind he fells he cant provide for you.

Answer 8

Let him know that its not his job that you love, but him...he maybe thinking he can't take you out no more....make sure he knows how you feel about him....either that or he wants to move on...job maybe just an excuse.

Answer 9

That's an excuse to cut and run. Help him out the door.

Answer 10

he just thinks that because he wont be able to take you out and buy you things -"assuming he was doing this wen he had a job"- you wont like him no more.. tell him your not with him because of his money..