my bf and i are 4 yrs apart , how big is too big of an age gap?

Question

im 17 and he's 21 we've been on and off for 3 yrs

Answer 1

Age is just a number. 4 years apart is nothing. If you both love each other then you'll be just fine :)

Answer 2

Well 17 and 21 is OK and 3 years difference is no big deal unless one is a minor. Like what in the world were you doing dating an 18 year old when you were a minor (14). If it has been on and off for 4 years it was probably because you were way to young to understand him. Soon he will grow up and so will you. Then you will be to old and he will be to immature. By this I mean that there is something a little bit wrong with a man who wants to date a child so when you become a women he won't be interested in you anymore and you will realize that he is not what you need or want for a mate. Find a boy friend that you can grow together with.

Answer 3

Sometimes it just depends...My hubbie and I are 5 years apart. When we started dating I was 16 and he was 21 he hated it. So we broke up awhile. Then I was 17 and he was 22 which wasn't so bad..when I was finally 18 and he was 23 It was great and we got married. Now I am 26 and he is 31 and the age gap isn' t a big deal at all. now when you think of it, when I was 13 he was 18 that was probably to big of an age gap at the time. But now we are fine..So I guess it just depends.

Answer 4

My boyfriend and I are the same way. We started dating when I was 17 and he was 21. His parents are separated by 6 years and they have been married for over 30 years. No age gap is too big as long as the couple loves each other. I say keep with it girl!

Answer 5

I was a sr. in high school and my ex was in his 4th year of college. We met when we were 17 and 14 were just friends for three years and then dated when I was 17 and he was 21 thing were great, but I couldn't go out drinking with him which blew! We trusted eachother, but the fours showed I had to be home by one and he lived on his own and got to do whatever he wanted. We loved eachother very much, but we were in two different places in life he want to get married that June after we both got out of scholl and I wasn't ready! I think four years at that age is hard, but.....

I am now 24 and married to a man who is 28 and things are great we are both in the same place! I think it is also all about timing!

Answer 6

I dont see the problem my ex is 21 and im 17 and our relation ship is fine I think 4 years in good enough too much would be like 8-10 years

Answer 7

No, I don't think that it's a big age gap at all. Some people probably do. As long as you and your parents are okay with it, then there's nothing to worry about. My husband and I are 5 years apart.

Answer 8

I think four years is good. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 19 and will turn 20 in a couple of months. It's up to you and the people involved in the relationship. Some people can do it, some others can't. If you have love + respect it = good relationship no matter the age ;)

Answer 9

First dont let people say he's 21 your 17 thats wrong there it's not your a young lady..

My boyfriend and I are 10 years apart ..When I was in Kindergarden he was in high school we love eachother very much we have been together for many years

Answer 10

Im with this guy off and on to and im 30 and he's 43 so yeah big difference. He like's the old stuff and I ike the new stuff. Get out and find someone that will love you and stay on together. Really age difference does not matter it how they act and be. good luck.

Answer 11

Sweet Statutory! I can't really say anything because my wife and I are 8 years apart. It truly depends on the relationship, (And I met her when I was 22, she was 30). When you get older, the age gap isn't as important of an issue.