So I am on a crowded bus, and there is absolutely no place to move. People are trying to get out and I get slightly pushed into a mother who in turn gets pushed into her son who is sitting down. I forgot what she exactly told me but it was basically a rude comment telling me to move and that I am hurting her son. I got ticked off and rudely responded that I am not the one pushing her and I got no place to go. A couple of people seemed to hiss at me and didnt look like they appreciated my comment. So was I supposed to just stay quiet in this situation?
2007-02-05 05:37:37 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
"Pardon me" or "excuse me" is fine. why escalate an uncomfortable situation?
2007-02-05 05:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really never a good idea to be rude. Period. You may have handled that one differently like "I'm sorry, someone just pushed me"...something like that, but if they come back rudely with something, then just say "I know it's crowded on this bus, but just
like you, I'm not in a compromising position". That way, you can be polite, but make a point w/o being rude. I do it too when I have too. It usually goes over pretty well, but if it doesn't, then it's their problem and not yours. =)
2007-02-05 07:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds to me as though there's a loss of communique between the lecturers. In my college, if a pupil have been falling by the wayside - all the lecturers in touch in the pupil's college life may be attentive to approximately it - and have faith me - there may be a community of instructors attempting to do each little thing conceivable to assist the pupil stay at school. This sounds extra on a severe college point and that i would not think of it impolite to ask. it appears that evidently that the different instructor knew the pupil would not be attending severe college - whilst the instructor in the lifeless of night did no longer be attentive to. All instructors could be there for college scholars. If a pupil, for regardless of reason has to drop out of faculty, our college device has something in place (classification restoration, 3 grownup or night colleges, extra placement checks) to purpose and discourage drop outs. We habit seminars and workshops, we communicate to oldsters, we contain the community, there are facilitates attainable for youthful girls persons who've toddlers and choose care - there is something in place to purpose and help those toddlers graduate and bypass directly to different degree classes. which would be my take on the placement: do what i will to assist the pupil - and there is not any longer something impolite approximately that.
2016-10-01 11:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whilst I can understand what drove you to react in this situation, just a quiet apology would have gone down alot better. Sometimes we just need to let things slide, especially when we know it was a situation that you had no control over, (ie: being pushed into this woman.) It would have diffused the situation and probably would have made her feel like apologising to you in return.
Just my opinion on things. :-)
2007-02-05 05:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have apologized, only because there was a child involved, and a mother gets testy about that sort of thing. I'm not saying it was your fault, but it's the easiest way out of the situation. You must not hav ekids, or you wouldn't have to ask!
2007-02-05 12:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by ladyscootr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry yourself about a situation like this?
it is okay that you explained to her that you were pushed from behind, but SORRY IS THE MAGIC WORD, you should have added it.
Ignoring those who hissed and not bothering yourself about people who will not add one hair to your hair - would have been better.
2007-02-05 06:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by mail2chik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have apologized for accidentally pushing her and in turn, her son. Then she might realize you didn't mean to do it.
This is a stressful situation and being rude back will not help.
2007-02-05 06:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by kristin c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a bad attitude at times too, but when children are involved, it's best to bite your tongue. You should have apologized about her child being hurt, and explained that you didn't mean to push her, but with no room to move, you had no choice....you were also shoved.
2007-02-05 05:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with defending yourself, but it is all in how you do it... you were probably stressed from the packed ride and being pushed yourself.. Should have just apologized and said in a joking manner its way too crowded on here....
2007-02-05 05:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by wva_butterfly 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. But sometimes people do sympathize with women with children without trying to understand what went wrong. You have all the right to be upset and to express it.
2007-02-05 06:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by Jay C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't need to stay quiet but you didn't need to say more than "I'm sorry; I got pushed from behind."
2007-02-05 05:50:27 · answer #11 · answered by missingora 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋