i am curious to know how important is sex on a relationship...i have been dating someone now for about a year and three months and sex is not the focuse of the relationship. as a latino man i tend to want sex very often...is it normal to not have sex on a regular when the relationship is fairly new? how important is sex on a relationship?
2007-02-05 05:37:14 · 20 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a relationship should move at a pace that you both are comfortable with, but sex is an important part of any long term relationship. make sure that you are both comfortable where you are at sexually. btw race has nothing to do with sexual desires
2007-02-05 05:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by go away 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a myth thinking sex has nothing to do with a relationship. No its not normal not to have sex more often when its new.
In the article read #7.
Sex is incredibly important in a relationship. While the frequency of sex does tend to dwindle over time in a long-term relationship, the intimacy that comes from sex is hard to match. You don't have to limit the term 'sex' to mean 'intercourse'. A display of affection in the form of kissing, touching, etc. is matchless in making us feel loved and secure. Also... sex is fun.
2007-02-05 13:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by misstigeress 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex IN a relationship is important - but not all there is. It's a way for a couple to get intimate. I can understand waiting in the beginning - but a year? Kill me now! Seriously, for someone that likes/needs it - you'd best be finding someone who feels the same way. Otherwise, you run the risk of wandering.
2007-02-05 13:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex can play apart in a relationship but it's not a must. you need to find where her mind is. let her know what your thinking and whats going on in your head.. wait for her and if you can't then i dont know what to tell her. but most inportantly don't pressure her! and just because your latino doesn't mean anything, that issue comes to everyone, and it's normal to not have sex on the regular. but if your a guy who has sex or has had sex or a regular and she isn't or havent then it's all about you and her talkin about it
2007-02-05 13:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by Monique Jackson 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll say, if you don't have sex with the person, or at least kiss, then your not dating. Your just friends, since this is how you and friends interact. If you kiss, but nothing else, your a little more than friends but not too serious about each other, since your not showing physical affection. If your at least pleasing each other physically in other ways besides sex, and are waiting to get married before having sex, then thats a healthy relationship.
2007-02-05 13:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on both the guy and the girl and their sex drives. For me, it's important but shouldn't be the focus of it. Maybe try doing something romantic that leads to sex. Like a dinner followed with rose petals to the bedroom...
2007-02-05 13:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have sex when you're not married. Then, it would be healthy once or twice a week. Less than that can often cause strain on the relationship and couples tend to argue more and withdraw from each other. Unless there are difficult times such as illness, little children and such. In these cases sex often has to wait.
2007-02-05 13:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by VW 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sex should be the iceing on the cake in a relationship. It cannot support or is not even the main component in a relationship. But, as long as you like the amount of icing and the flavour, it can make it a lot more interesting.
2007-02-05 13:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by without.question 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not important.
What is important is if you two are attracted to eachother physically as well as mentally and personality.
Whenever you see her, do you always want to kiss her? But not just kiss for love, kiss for lust? its important to know if you are still attracted to that person because thats the difference between a friendship and a relationship
2007-02-05 13:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing for sure. Your being latino has nothing to do with your desire as all men feel as you. It is just hype from pride. We have 10x more desire than the average woman for sex! What do you think God says about it? If you are married, you can and must have intimacy. God says so in 1 Corinthians chapter 7. But not being married, she has no reason to give you her body! Even if you THINK it is part of love! It is not unless you are man enough to marry her! You say it is over a year and it could be longer before marriage but giving her body to you does not mean she loves you! That is also as foolish as using your Nationality as an excuse. All men are the same but I have heard that excuse from many Nationalities... It does not hold water as an excuse and science proves this. I have even heard this from those who want to commit adultery! Interesting excuse but wrong. I told him maybe the husband would kill him and should because I am sure that husband has the same hormones in his veins! A game by some for excuse. If you really love her, ask her to marry you if you feel you cannot wait much longer or take all the time you have had with her and leave! Don't return as you do not have the right for sex simply because you are going with her... A monkey could go with her but she would not marry a monkey! If you are married, then you do have a right to love her and be intimate with her and God says she should accept this. Ask her about her feelings on intimacy before you commit. Maybe she will use you as some women do! They will give you once a month and be with others the other times! Maybe another Latino that claims the same excuse that you do? Ha. Wouldn't that be nice? God tells us that we are not to refuse our spouse! He says fornication, or sex outside of marriage may result in rejection by Him, forever. I am sure she is thinking that you do not care enough to marry her, and is waiting for you to pop the question. Then maybe she will feel you care. Women are feelings oriented and do not base much on facts in relationships. That question makes all the difference to faithful women but little to those who have had many men. They may continue in their sexual escapades for years after a marriage commitment! You could show her what God says about sex as mentioned above but it is speaking of the married and not the single. Then God says she MUST submit, although there are conditions you also must do.. Love her as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it! Can you do that? That, also, will have nothing to do with race or Nationality and is up to you! May God guide you in your decisions. Earl
2007-02-05 14:19:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋