she seems very needy, and what i mean by that is i work a 55 hr work week she works a 40 she so she has alot of time to herself. i don't. so i told her that on one of my days off i will spend with her and my other day off i will go out with my friends. we live in the same place so i do see her every night. when i do get to go out its always the same old stuff though. why cant she come out with me? i keep telling her its just the guys but it apparently not good enough for her. if i play my xbox for a little bit when i get home from workt hats a problem. its like everything i do there is a problem. i think she could be off the wall crazy and im seriously considering ending this. i feel like i'm a prisioner in my own place. we get into an argument at least once a week and it always ends up her apologizing to me. is there anymore i can do to fix this? i've tried talking to her many times but it doesnt seem to work. i am 26 and she is 22 yrs old. any advice would be helpful.
2007-02-05 05:35:03 · 12 answers · asked by WhatToDo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you need to talk to your girlfriend,ask her why she acts the way she does,for some one who is 22 she sounds like an old woman,she has issues that need to be dealt with,you can either try help her together or its time to move on,but give her a chance to change the way she is towards you.
2007-02-05 05:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by plopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question is:
Is hanging out with the guys & playin' xbox more important than her?
If it is, then maybe you need to end it..
It sounds to me like she loves you and wants to spend the little time you have together, with you.
I'm not saying give up the xbox. I not saying drop all your freinds. But let me ask you. How many of those freinds you hang out with have girlfreinds? How may are married?
Now, if you said you were hanging out with your freinds once a month (we're assuming you two don't have any kids) I would say that's ok and she's being a little possesive.
And don't come right home and jump on the xbox. I know, I love my computeter games too & given the chance I could play all day.
But I had to make a decision. What is more important... And now that I have kids, I don't have time to hang out & play xbox with the guys...
So, if guys & games are more important, then get to it. Play as much as you want. Get it out of your system. 'Cause some day, when you want a commited relationship, you're going to have to cut way back.
Good luck.
A~
2007-02-13 04:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to actuality. You do what a guy frequently does --- is going to paintings all day, then comes living house to a spouse and the youngsters. he's were given the opposite function, and in his position, i ought to constructive as hell favor outa there with that many toddlers that i change into babysitting all day... yikes. Many relationships fail below the rigidity of four!!!!!!!! toddlers below 6 years previous. elevating toddlers, conserving your better 1/2 and toddlers jointly, paying expenses, etc. is rather very very stressful, notwithstanding it isn't totally his fault... for what ever reason, you've complicated your lives with such a great number of toddlers.....that you both are really unprepared to develop in a fashion it truly is a minimum of no longer taxing ...... it will be years in the previous you 2 will back get to attraction to close one yet another. Divorce really isn't the reply, neither is separation. on your position, i should be in search of a few help from a professional on time administration, yet, having all those youthful ones all so youthful, ought to rigidity even the most functional bond. i don't have an answer, hon, except to seek techniques to get decrease back some administration of your existence, it sluggish, and your courting, with some professional help.
2016-11-02 09:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that she was in a bad relationship and she is using that to judge you. She needs to get over herself. the relationship is not a healthy one and if you feel imprisoned get out because it makes no sense to be unhappy all the time it may cause depression which might hurt her and yourself as well so for both your sakes tell her what she is doing to you and the relationship. You said you tried talking to her but it does not work . Its not working because she is not listening. Do what grabs her attention the best if that does not work cut your losses and say good bye before it escalates into something that you both might regret.
2007-02-13 04:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Alise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If playing XBOX and hanging out with your friends is that important to you then do both your girlfriend and yourself a favor and PLEASE end this relationship. She won't want to be maried and having to raise the children that you both bring into the world together and you at the sametime. Both of you have a lot to learn about love and compromise. And if she's the woman you do want to spend the rest of your life with then your friends will understand why you can't spend as much time with them as you once did.
2007-02-13 05:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by tkdnsacountry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants your attention...is that too much to ask of you? So what, you go home, you probably expect dinner, and do what u want. She needs you to love her...Show her you love her--55hrs is nothing.. I used to work 80hrs a week between 2 jobs, and always had time to party, and have fun w/boyfriend, friends etc... don't be a man that is all about himself... Be a real man...
2007-02-13 05:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk and explain everything to her and if you feel like you cannot breath in the relationship tell her.
you need time for yourself too and your girlfriend should see that.
you are not a robot that can be control,you have your own life and you should have enough space to grow and to see other people around you.
2007-02-13 03:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by chie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you paying enough attention to her needs first? Have you made her a priority or do you think maybe she feels that those other things are more important and come first before her?
2007-02-05 06:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by Soinlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is to short to be unhappy. If she's this needy now, you can plan on it getting worse. Cut her lose and find someone you are more compatiable with.
Good Luck
2007-02-13 05:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by Kbear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound to me liked wither of you are ready for marriage... why do you spend 50% of your free time with your friends, and without her, if you want to spend the rest of your life with her? She isn't a friend?
2007-02-13 00:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋