I think that my girlfriend is going to have a baby and i am 17. What should i do.?

Answer 1

Tell your parents. They can be (not saying they will be) a good/great source of information and/or help. You'll need to make sure you go to college and work part time to help pay for some of the things your baby will need. Public Aid and state Medicaid will help your girlfriend pay living expenses and pay medical expenses. ALWAYS get a DNA test... ALWAYS! If she asks if you don't trust her, simply say you don't want any one questioning it, esp yourself when you get to your low points in fatherhood. Tell her that you will do your best, but also that you will not tolerate any emotional abuse from her. Teenage moms tend to be something of a trainwreck trying to understand themselves and this whole new life.

Read the book "What to expect when your expecting" and try to find some books about teen pregnancy and fatherhood. Get yourself psyched up for this possible new role.

Answer 2

Talk with your girlfriend and stick with her. She may decide to keep the baby, she may not. Having a baby at 17 is difficult, and she may decide to give it up for adoption so that the baby could have a better life. A lot of that will depend on whether she has parental support.
You are not old enough to provide financial support. 17 is not old enough to have the job you will need to provide. You need to do what is neccessary to attain a well-paying job. This will take time and discipline. You need to finish high school, and then go to a vocational school or college (whether community or other) to get an adequate education for today's world.
This may not be a popular opinion, but realistically, it's not going to help anyone to just settle down and get to work full time at a minimum wage job!
Although you and your girlfriend are having a baby together, and you are obligated to care for this child, you have to be able to do this. You and she are going to need help. Enlist her parents and your parents. Go to a teen crisis pregnancy center. They will have resources to help. You shouldn't look for the easy way out, but at your age, you and your girlfriend need to find a way to finish your education and acquire job skills for your future. It will be very difficult. Going to school is hard enough, but you will need to also work out pregnancy doctor visits and later on, a childcare schedule that will enable you to work and go to school. And yes, if you do work, you should pay your girlfriend child support.
whatever you do, don't mess up your educational opportunities. It is going to be a difficult balance, your priorities are going to be your education and also the well being of your child and girlfriend. don't ever forget your priorities and responsibilities. If you have the right support, you can do it. You are going to go through difficult times, so be prepared.
And always support your girlfriend, and realize this is even more difficult for her. If you two are supportive of each other and work together, you can do this.
I wish you and your girlfriend the best.

Answer 3

First off, you and her need to buy a pregnancy test or get tested at her doctor's office to verify that she is pregnant. I recommend at the doctor's cause they'll do bloodwork and those tests are always accurate verses some over-the-counter test. Next, if she is pregnant you two need to sit down and talk. Do you want to keep the baby or give it up for adoption? That's a hard topic to discuss but as you said, you're seventeen. I'm twenty and I'm no where near ready to even think of having a baby. Having a baby (and deciding to keep it) can strengthen your relationship and can bring out the best in people but if you aren't ready it can also ruin your life. A baby is a lot of work and takes a lot of time and money. I hope everything works out.

Answer 4

First, make sure she is pregnant. Get a home pregnancy kit.
Second, determine if you really are the father. (If another boy could be the father, you can have a DNA test done after the baby is born to be sure.)
Thirdly if you believe the baby is likely yours, you need to be willing to support your child for the next 18 years. That means financial help and being there to spend time with your daughter or son (just like your parents have done for you).
Fourth, since you are so young and not an adult yet, you need to get some help from a trusted adult. Can you talk to your mother or father about this? (don't have the conversation until you are sure the girl is pregnant; she needs to see a doctor before you tell your parents and upset them).
This will upset your parents, her parents and the two of you, but you know you had sex and you have to take responsibility for your actions. If she decides to have an abortion, you need to pay for it since she will go through the emotional and physical pain of it. If she decides she wants to become a mother and save this child's life, you need to be there for her during the pregnancy and afterwards for the child. This does not mean you need to get married, but if you are the father of her child, you need to be very, very loving and supportive. Get a part-time job and pay for what you can. Ask your parents for any help they can provide financially for their grandchild, too. Good luck.

Answer 5

You could take the easy way out...but you will only be hurt in the end. Just read through these:
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If you care for her you will do the right thing. Weigh your options out, see both sides of this situation and try to use you keen knowledge of life. You could abort the child, though you could also have a beautiful son or daughter. You should always be careful and never think that pregnancy is possibility not within your reach.You should always practice safe methods of intimacy otherwise you'll find yourself in these difficult situations.

Also take in to consideration that you will not be alone. There are many forms of help for young people with children. If you have plans to go to school, FASFA is always willing to help for schooling. So in a sense you may be lucky, if you could not afford school before, it will be more easily attainable. Since you have a child you will be considered independent.

Hope you find peace

Answer 6

First find out if she's pregnant! If she is, be there for support until she has the baby. Don't sign the birth certificate without a paternity test!!!!!!!!!!! Then work your butt off to make a good life for all of you, and finish school.(that includes some kind of career training, perhaps college?) Don't get married until you are ready! Getting married just because of a baby only makes things harder for all of you, even the baby.

Answer 7

if she is going to have a child, you need to step up and be a man to provide for her and your soon to be child. you need to get a good job, graduate from high school and be a good dad and boyfriend. a child is not cheap. this is a lot responsibility to be taking on for your age but if you buckle down, prepare yourself and do your best do plan ahead you will be just fine. do not be one of those guys who walks away from the relationship and never wants to be around the mom or the child. if you are the dad then you need to be there because if not, your child is going to grown up to resent you for doing that to them not to mention the hardships that you are going to cause your girlfriend by having her be a single mom. stay there in the relationship for her and the baby and be the best parents that you can be. hope this works out for all of you. good luck.

Answer 8

Hey congrats. OK, first check that she is actually going to have a baby. Then there are a few things you can consider
Having an abortion. Although this is ideal, it does not morally suit everyone
Having the child and then putting it up for adoption (again, see above)
If you do decide to go ahead and keep the baby, make sure you will be able to give it a good life. But babies can be wonderful things, I hope you find much happiness.

Answer 9

Accept this a s a blessing and start planning your future with a child in it. This happens all the time. And many people come out not seeing their lives any other way. You'll know when you see this beautiful beautiful baby for the first time.

Answer 10

allthough it is very scarey believe me (i had my first at 17) if you 2 together decide to keep the baby and raise yourselves you should get a job and do what you can to take care of your child, it is hard but very rewarding in the long run...there is nothing like being a parent just hold on everything will turn out ok in the end i promise..