Do you think that some people are too picky about who they go out with?

Question

And they end up with nobody at all?

My mother has a friend that is in her mid 40's I'll just say not a beauty queen. But the only men she would consider dating are these guys in their 20's very handsome and just to put it bluntly would not be interested in her at all. She won't date guys compatible to her and she has no one.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I am very picky, but not so much with looks. I want a decent looking girl because I'm average Joe. I would honestly rate myself a 7/8 and therefor I don't expect to have a relationship with a babe, i also look for 7/8 girls. But I judge a lot on personality and what I can and cannot deal with. That's where I am picky, and is why I'm 20 and have only dated 2 girls whereas all of my friends have probably been in 5+ relationships already.

Your mothers friend is probably way too picky with unrealistic goals, or she has some major flaws that don't attract men because I've seen some UGLY woman with men in their lives... not because they're attractive woman but because they have a wonderful personality (or some other feature that attracted whoever)...

To answer your question, yes, people can be way too picky, and some people aren't picky enough (hence getting a divorce because you settled for him/her rather than wait for the right one). Some people also might not get the chance to meet too many people... maybe your lifestyle is pretty basic... (work, go home...) and so you're limited to the people you see daily.

Answer 3

Well, instead of asking about your mom's friend, what would you do in her situation - maybe it doesn't make sense to you, but what would you settle for? Just because you may not have the same standards that she has does not mean she is being too picky - you must have some list in your mind of what you look for in someone and one of your friends may think you're too picky.

Think about what you wrote "she has no one" do you think its better to have no one while you try and get what you truly want, or take what you can get and settle for something lesser?

It's nice you're concerned about her, but she sounds like she knows what she wants, if she gets it is another story, but a lot of older women have younger boyfriends/husbands/partners.

And your comments about "beauty queen" and "guys in their 20's very handsome and just to put it bluntly would not be interested in her at all" kind of show your own bias to be honest - it's not all about looks and age - sounds like she knows that, but you don't. And since you're not one of her potential mates/suitors, it really doesn't matter what you think about her looks, right?

You don't even mention career, interests, life experience, all the other things a confident woman in her 40's would have.

If your mom's friend is OK, leave her be. She'll adjust her requirements when she wants to and IF she wants to.

Answer 4

Oh yeah, girls are the worst with that. Many have little to offer yet want to be with men like Brad Pitt, and then turn down a lot of perfectly great guys they meet everyday..always finding something wrong with them. In the end, they end up single, sometimes with cats.

I've known some female friends who do this.

Answer 5

Yes. I try to look at people from the inside and at least give them a chance. If she were to go out with some of the guys that have asked her out she might find something deeper than looks and that is called compatibility just like you said it.

Answer 6

I don't think they'll end up with no one at all, but I do think people are extremely picky. But you know, you should never have to settle for less than you expect or deserve. At one point in my life I thought I was too picky and would end up with no one, but because I waited I've not got the perfect man!!

Answer 7

We do not look at ourselves and not see a sexy beast. Who realy wants to screw a 4 or 5 ? I know for myself I want a 10 and many people do, even thou 1 day I banged 5 - 2s which adds to 10. No One wants to bang the pig, but some times the pig is us.

Answer 8

well ur mom's freind is lil weird , but i didn't get picky the way u described it through out ur mom's freind but i would say u musn't waist ur time on some ppl u know for sure u won;t have a chance with them so u must be lil picky when it comes to relations , so u would feel that u r in the safe side , i feel like i'm babling ,, i guess that's it

Answer 9

I settled, for fear of never finding what I wanted. Now I'm stuck in a dead-end marriage. I wish I was pickier. There's no point in your mom's friend dating someone her own age if she's just not attracted to them. I'd rather be alone than with someone I don't like.

Answer 10

Yes, most people are too picky... and mostly bc their perception of themselves is distorted. They are often conceited and feel "entitled" to someone of similar worth & comparison. It's like a sense of naive, shallowness and ignorance all at once.

But don't blame them for being that way, most of our culture and society (like what we see on TV) influences us to be "picky" and since so many people care what others think about them, they often go for partners who are way out of their league.