2007-02-05 05:13:42 · 5 answers · asked by Kristen H 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It all depends on your first childs personality. There are many things that you can do to help your first child through this. I have 2 children. My son was a month away from being 4 when my daughter was born. My son's personality is the ultimate pleaser. He was the most wonderful brother - not showing jealousy towards her. The first thing that I did is when I was pregnant I got one of my old dolls and started toteing that around when we were home and let him help with that - it seemed to help alot! However when she got a little older, he started acting jealous of little things (like when she got rocked to sleep.) At that point, I made a special point to include him even more than I already was. It was a burden on me at times, but it helped him through it. I would let him rock her, or put both on my lap. I would let him do things with her or include him more - like changing a diaper (that was a trip). Pretty soon he got over it and realized that I love them both very much.
All in all, your first child will probably be jealous, but there are plenty of ways to overcome that. Just be aware of how your 2 year old is acting and then make adjustments. It will be fine. I think that in the outcome it is good for someone to have siblings, even if there are bumps in the road of growing up. You can't put them on a pedestal all the time - it will only make growing up harder.
2007-02-05 05:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, jealousy is normal. However, if you decide to have another child, make sure you talk to the two year old about the importance of being a big brother/sister. Involve them in helping with the baby with simple tasks. Make you express that even with a new baby you will never love your two year old any less.
2007-02-05 13:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Over and over again. But children also become jealous when you talk to your spouse, dog, the neighbor, and otherwise attempt to perform such selfish tasks such as cooking, laundry and speaking on the telephone.
The bottom line is jealousy will happen no matter what. Don't let how your first child may feel stop you from deciding what is best for your family.
2007-02-05 13:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is a common thing but you can try to make it easier on the first child if throughout your pregnancy of the second, you include the first child. Let the first child help you pick out names. Let the first child talk to the baby in your stomach, etc. It will make it easier on the first and have less jelousy toward the second baby.
2007-02-05 13:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by tweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first yes your 2-year-old will naturally be jealous, this happened with us... but as long as you set aside special time to be with your oldest, it should work out. also if you get pregnant, prepare your child
2007-02-05 14:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋