child support trouble?

Question

I have offered my ex girlfriend $1500 in child support money for our newborn daughter Destinie. I have also offered to put her on my insurance policy and pay all of the doctor bills. Plus I even told Chantelle that I would pay all of the day care costs for Destinie while she works. I think I am being more than generous.
The thing is Chantelle says this is not enough. She has told me that a real man would pay $2500 to support his child plus the insurance and day care costs.
She refuses to let me see Destinie till I give in to her demands. I have told her that I have offered what I will give and to get any more she will have to take me to court.
Which amount makes the most sense? I know it costs a lot to raise a baby and I feel that I am doing my part. I just don't want to be made a fool out of.

Answer 1

$2500 a MONTH??? WTF! Is she crazy?

At this point, you need to protect yourself and get this settled in court. I know how annoying that is, but if you WANT to see your daughter and protect yourself, you need to do this.

My husband's ex is greedy also. She makes MORE money than my husband, plus she remarried into a wealthy family, and she's still getting tons of child support. At one point we were paying $900 a month, but that got reduced down to $400 a month now since it's proven that she makes more than my husband and all that. And that's for ONE child. But she also tried to pull the "you can't see your daughter unless I get money" crap...which I think is SO sad for the children involved. I hate women who use their kids for money.

You sound like you're trying, at the very least, which is way more than a lot of parents (dads OR moms) do for their kids.

Anyway, I feel for yah, and I hope everything works out for the best for your daughter!

Answer 2

That is alot of money for one child. Do yourself a favor and do not let her start using you as a paycheck. If she does take you to court the MOST they would give her would be 23% of your gross salery. They would also require you keep the child on medical insurance. So figure up whatever 23% of your salery would be base it of last years yearly amount. You are not responciable for day care costs that comes out of her child support. Once you figure out the amount tell her whatever it is and tell her that will also include the daycare costs. Write her a check for the amount you are willing to pay and write child support under memo. If she cashes the check (which she will) she is accepting the amount as the monthly child support. Therefore if you are paying child support she can not withhold the child from you. However, it would be in your best interest all around to go to count so she can not violate a set custody agreement. Trust me you can not start out trying to do her favors she will screw you in the end. All women appreciate the fact your a good guy and trying to do your part but most women get $300 or so a month for child support and manage just fine. Best wishes.

Answer 3

That is great that you are offering her money. First of all you should take her to court. Establish paternity make sure that this baby is biologically your child. Once paternity is established then you file paper work for child support. remember child support is 10% of your income. So she is crazy demanding money that right now you are not obligated to pay her until a judge orders you. Now visit your local family court they can help you out. Also you can get a attorney but I would suggest get a dna test first. Go online. Good luck to you. I have seen many cases that the woman blame a guy that is not his kid. You do not want to be supporting a child that is not your. If you do you are a really good man. Good luck. I hope this helps

Answer 4

Don't get stupid on me man.
You have offered WAY TOO MUCH!!!!

I'm going to make this as clear as I possibly can, forget about Chantelle and concentrate on Destinie. Get a lawyer. Have him look at the case. Ask him to figure out what your child support payments would be, because I only pay $400 a month and I have a $50,000 a year job.
I also have court ordered time with my child. I have my child every weekend and there is nothing my Ex can say about it.
Save yourself money, time, and grief. Talk to a lawyer.

Good luck.

Answer 5

To put it in perspective with actual known figures - My father made 80,000$ a year and was paying roughly 450$ a month in child support for one child via court order, and was taking care of any and all medical costs, including dental etc. 450$ a month was plenty. I was not in want for anything, and this was during my teenage years. I had money to peter around with if I wanted to go to the mall, on top of more than enough for school supplies and school clothes, extra activities, etc.

Tell her if she wants LESS she can go through the courts, and you'll enforce your visitation rights. I would probably bring up concern about baby momma spending money on herself, not the baby. She can be forced to account for where the money goes if the concern is deemed legitimate, although this is fairly rare. Baby momma is just looking for spending money for herself, not for the kid.

You are being MORE than generous.

Answer 6

You are being overly generous. Most guys only pay like $500 or so for one child. I agree that the $1500 plus insurance and day care costs makes the most sense. Your ex is just being greedy.
Don't let her push you around.

Answer 7

It depends on how much you make, the courts will generally say about 10% of your income for child support.
Whatever you pay her, make sure to get a written agreement (consult a lawyer) outlining your visitation rights so she can't stop you from seeing the child if she changes her mind and wants more money later.

Answer 8

$1500 a month? You are better off letting the courts decide this. They will base it on your income and your expenses. They will also establish visitation schedules and rights..which you have by law. It sound to me like your Ex is taking you for a ride. I have a friend who pays $400 a month plus 33% of daycare costs after his salary of $40,000 a year and his expenses (mortage, car payments and general living expenses) are taken into account.

I hope you realize that she is probably using most of that money for her own personal use.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

my ex has to pay 555 dollars amonth for 2 kids and have them on his insurance policy, he would have to pay half of daycare as well if my kids went to daycare. if i were you i would go to the court and ask for a court ordered child support arrangement. Unfortunately giving money directly to your ex is not seen in the eyes of the court as paying child support, it actually has to go through the courts to count. I tried very hard to get my worker to recognize the 200 a month my ex was giving me voluntarily for the last two years, but they would not and because of that, he has to pay back child support as well.