my bf and i have been together for a long time and i just dont know what imma do if they recall him...im actually engaged but im just scared
2007-02-05 05:00:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The best thing you can do is to support him. I've been married to an army officer for 15 years. The thing he needs most from me is to know that I'm strong enough to handle things and not fall apart when he gets called. I know you're scared. It's a reality of our lives, and it won't change. There will always be a chance of being called. We, on active duty, have the benefits of each other. We learn to rely on the other spouses and invest in one another through our family readiness groups for times just like this. Support him in every way. Be strong for him. And surround yourself with people who can support you. Find out if his unit has a group of other women that you can get to know.
2007-02-05 05:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think all the servicemen and women right now are facing a pretty darned good chance of getting sent back over there, unless they've just gotten back, although I heard of a guy whose family pushed his wedding up, because he was home for only 6 weeks. If he is recalled, there's not much you can do about it, he's agreed to serve his country in this way, and yes, it is scary. I know each branch of the service has support groups for the wives, mothers and probably girlfriends/fiancees of the men serving overseas, look into joining one of those. It will help you to realize that others are going through exactly what you're going through. If he's recalled, be supportive, don't burden him with your fears (he has them too) and remember that he's doing a job over there, and just always be happy and upbeat when you talk with him, even if you have to fake it. I hope that if he is called up, he'll be safe, and return home soon. God bless you both, and thank you for your service and the sacrifices you both are making to help keep the rest of us safe.
2007-02-05 06:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you are engaged to a marine get used to it.
My ( husband )marine was killed almost 2 years ago. My husband and I were together for 7 years ( high school sweethearts ) married 22 months and he was only home for 6 months of our marriage.
Honestly I think deployments really test your faith in a relationship. Can you handle being 7+ months alone on your own. Cause if you are gonna marry a marine you are marrying the corps too. You are 2nd place to the marines. Take my word on that one. Sat thru 3 deployments..
Good luck girl !!
2007-02-05 05:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by alwaysamarinewife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The separation won't be easy for either of you but give your fiance all the love & support that you can. It's only normal to be scared, & do you think deep down, that he isn't scared too? You have to keep yourself busy if/when he is deported. You will get through it as many thousands of others have, just pray for strength. When writing to your fiance, always keep your letters & cards upbeat & don't dwell on the negative things. He needs to hear cheery things from you, so write often, send photos of yourself, & keep the faith. All the best to both of you.
2007-02-05 05:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a life he has chosen. And this is a life that you have accepted as well. There is nothing you can do but be strong & supportive. And of course you are scared. So is he.
You might want to find other military wives & girlfriends in your area so that you have someone that can support you &sympathize with you & your situation.
2007-02-05 05:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is wait. If you love him you'll wait. You'll have hard times and you'll weak and with every time you get weak, you'll come out stronger once you get through it. Love him, support him, he needs you more than you'll ever need him. That's just the military and you have to accept it, otherwise you will lose him, and if even if he forgives you he will never forget you left him when he needed you the most if you realize you made a mistake.
2007-02-05 05:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by ChrissyBar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is more scared than you are. be there to love and support him, there is nothing better to have in the desert than someone at home who truly loves you and is waiting for you to get home. support him and love him, he is a very lucky man to have someone that is willing to wait for him. I wish the best of luck to the both of you and i hope he doesnt get recalled... it sucks
2007-02-05 05:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by go away 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray.
He signed so there's nothing you both can do. Just to pray and hope for the best. Good luck.
2007-02-05 05:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he wants to do.
If he wants to go,then get married before they recall him.
2007-02-05 05:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by Sammie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for him and support him...they usually have support groups, for the family and friends when they are gone. Just be there to support him. God Bless him for what he is doing for our country...please give him a "thanks" from my family!
2007-02-05 05:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by buckeyefever7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋