I have been talking to this guy for a couple of months and we really like each other but he recently told me he "has a girl" only "he doesn't love her like he loves me," yet he's still with her. (Bastard...lol. sorry) B/c of this, I started talking to a guy who really seems to like me & I like him, but I still cannot keep the other person off my mind. I don't like being a girl on the side; I want to be a guy's main & ONLY girl. I think I should let the first guy go but I CANNOT stop thinking about him. Does anyone have any good advice? What should I say to him (the first guy)? Thanks! :)
2007-02-05 04:59:31 · 11 answers · asked by ~BuBbLy~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He hasn't been calling me much in the last couple of days. Why is this??
2007-02-05 15:04:56 · update #1
He's not that into you. Sorry, its just a line of his.
2007-02-13 04:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Don't talk to this guy again. If he's willing to be with one woman and also be with you, what do you think he'll do if you're "His girl"?
2) You need some down time. Tell the new guy that you're going through a break up and you need some time alone. Tell him you like him but you need 3 - 4 weeks to get over it. Tell him you need to do it so that you know it's not a "rebound" relationship...
3) If Mr. "..doesn't love her like he loves me," calls, tell him it's over. I don't care how much you liked him. He didn't love you. He's using you. Admit it. Tell him never to call you again.
And that's the part you need to reinforce. No matter how strong your feeling were for him, it was all based on a lie. You cannot build a relationship on a lie. No matter what you felt about him, he led you on for "..couple of months..". An honest man would not do that. An honest man would have gotten out of a relationship that was not strong enough to keep him honest...
Once you are over this, start dating that other guy.
Good luck.
A~
2007-02-13 12:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id forget about the first one. If he loved you more he'd be with you, not the other girl. There's a guy that I know who kept telling me how I was to good for my husband(which I love very very very much) and yadayadayada but he was just trying to get in my pants. I assume that's all the first guy was after. Id say move on. You can do it Sweetie.
2007-02-13 12:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by southerngirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should talk to the first guy about it and i mean if you can't stop thinking about the first guy then its not going to fair to the second guy if your mind is on somebody else. so first talk to the first guy about it and if hes not willing to leave the girl hes with then maybe its just best that you move on...
2007-02-13 11:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lauren W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the first one if he really love you he will try to fix his life and decide whom he really loves.he is making a trick he wants 2 girls at the same time.try to avoid communicating with him or even seeing him,it will help.draw your attention to other guys around you.girl,there will always be a school of fish in the sea.
im a girl and i also want to be the only one in my boyfriend's life.
and please tell him taht he cannot sail two boats at the same time in the sea.
he have to realize that...
2007-02-13 11:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by chie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything. Ever again.
Don't get involved with guys that are unavailable.
Guy's who have "side girls" will have them when you are the main girl. And you will never be the Only Girl.
You don't want that.
2007-02-13 11:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by srthompson01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want to be the (dirty little) secret on the side, then leave the first guy and focus on the second (you know, the one that cares about you...) if you want to be the girl on the side, there to clean up his messes, stay with the first guy...
2007-02-13 08:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave and forget the first one . only love who is honest and love you honestly . you have right to be his main &only girl, because
i am sure that he wants to be the main&only guy for his g/f . find another one and forget him . i wish a good luck for you .
2007-02-05 13:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by MASOUD A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is the guy on the side wanted to do what guys commonly call a hump and dump. he just wanted sex. he wants to make you think about it then have sex then never talk to you again. hes a prick forget about him
2007-02-13 12:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by frenchie_forshizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is that unless some other guy is going to make you feel as special as the 1st 1 then it will be hard to 4get bout him..
2007-02-13 06:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by Ziyaadtrd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get read of the first one and move on with the second one that way at least you will be happier then
2007-02-13 12:05:50 · answer #11 · answered by harold g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋