I like other guys and just want to have fun. My ex - wants to be with me and calls and tells me we will be together he loves me. I just dont think I feel soo into him anymore.
He keeps asking if I am tlaking to anyone and wants to check my myspace account and stupid crap.
How do I deal, without being too mean and breaking his heart?
I tried explaining we dont get along, etc etc. Nothing is working.
2007-02-05 04:56:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to 'simply' tell him that you are not interested in him any more, and that you and he both need to 'move on with our lives.' BUT you need to 'beware' because this man may be 'obsessing' on you, and that could lead to some 'illegal behavior' and even to him doing violence on you and even on your relatives. You must still tell him that you are 'broken up and it's forever' but you may also need to tell him that if he doesn't 'stop calling you' or otherwise trying to see you and talk to you, that you will get a 'restraining order' and also tell him that you are also going to call the police as soon as your 'conversation' is ended, and that you will inform the police that you have informed him that you want nothing further to do with him, and that you will consider anything more he tries to do to 'get you back' or 'keep you' could be considered a crime and that you will call the police if he tries to 'do anything, ever' ... then just hang up the phone and call the police. I'm sorry, but this doesn't sound like the kind of guy who is just 'feeling really hurt' and that you are 'breaking his heart' ... he sounds like a 'stalker' or worse 'in the making.'
2007-02-05 05:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many have those same feelings as you do? Have you asked yourself why these feelings are coming on you? Did you know the biggest marriage corrupter is not man or women but the enemy of all. According to Christ, we can divorce if our partner commits adultery but if not, we would be committing it if we remarry! Feelings change daily! That is a fact and it is inevitable! Did you ever feel like killing your parents because of being corrected when you were young? It did not last long and you may have FELT bad about it after! But feelings are not what should move us,,, facts should move us. How many women go through change of life? Do they not have emotional problems because of feelings? It is feelings that are moving them. Did you ask why you have this and he does not? Men are not feelings oriented but fact based oriented. It is how we are made. So if you think you want a man that does not fit the usual, good luck as that is what would give you one... Luck is not a think to go by either, is it? Ask that you both to a REAL Christian counselor and ask for him or her to involve their spouse! What you do not know about your husband and yourself can hurt both of you! I am sure your communications have all but stopped. A marriage is not over if you do not go by feelings... Love is not just a feeling, as some think! God is called love, but could we say He is a feeling? No. If you are a Catholic, I would make sure whoever counsels you is Born Again. That way you will get the truth from God from them and this will change your FEELINGS! Can't God, the author of love, help change how all of us feel? Try it and see. You will be overwhelmed with what happens! God bless. Earl
2007-02-05 05:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When being nice just doesn't work...be direct...mean what you say and say what you mean (don't dance around the subject)...sometimes you have to be a little "mean" to get some people to understand....if he continues to bother you...tell him you will take legal action (a restraining order) if he continues...hopefully, you will never have to get that far....or you can go the "I'm busy" route whenever he calls....
Some people just don't know how to get the message....
2007-02-05 05:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by Toots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex for a reason. Don't let him control you. You are a free woman and no one can make you feel guilty about what you want to do. You need to make sure you stay strong and don't tell him anything about your life. If you do, you are sending him mixed signals. Then he feels it's okay to question you.
2007-02-05 05:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop answering his calls.
ignore his emails if you want to be away from him.
you have to stop responding.
just totally ignore his attempts at contact.
yes his heart will be broken. it's for the best.
in the long run it doesn't help him if you stayed with him and didn't want to. it never works.
as long as you are still talking to him he feels he has a chance.
so stop communicating with him.
2007-02-05 05:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him it;s over, and be blunt
tell him tostop calling and anything else he is doing.
cold turkey is the best way to stop anything
sorry but cruelty sometimes gets the point across
better that being sweet.
2007-02-05 05:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by rottentothecore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have to get a bit mean because if he wants to be with you he will try to get his way and you'll have to shoo him off any how!
2007-02-05 05:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by jacquie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to Dr. Phil.
2007-02-05 04:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Legsology07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be mean and direct. Get him off your back.
2007-02-05 04:58:55 · answer #10 · answered by FatElvis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋