I was dumped by text on 29th Dec. It's been really painful these few weeks coming to terms with it as I was with this woman for 18 months. I have to admit I still have feeling for her but know that even if she ever wanted to get back together I should not.
Today coming out of my house I was greeted with her and her ex in a car (her mum lives opposite my house) she has a child with her ex who is a xanker as he often beat on her. This was the first time I'd seen her since Christmas when we were still together.
I did not know she was outside so was very shocked and just walked off ignoring them. I did not want to get into an argument with the xrick. She later text me saying 'Is this how it's going to be you ignoring me whenever you see me' My reply was ' Again only thinking of your feelings and not mine'
Anyway, I've arranged to meet her for some closure on Sunday but don't know what to say to her. I want her to know that what she did (dumping me by text) was low.
2007-02-05 04:56:43 · 21 answers · asked by Sky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell her the truth about how you feel. And go from there. Go with your instinct.
2007-02-05 05:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell her just that. Tell her how immature and cowardly her method of breaking up was and that if she was a real woman, she wouldve said it face to face, or at least thru an actual conversation. As far as her relationship with the other ex, some women get stuck in a rut and continuosly revert to old behavior because they expect nothing better for themselves. He may not be hitting her now, and he's probably promised he wouldn't...but he will. You can't let her get u stuck in that same constant state of going nowhere. U can care about her well-being but only she can change her fate. Just let her go and try ur best to move on. I mean, u sound like a good guy: taking on a relationship with a woman who has a child and baggage from her past relationship. Ihave no doubt that you'll find something better.
Good luck.
2007-02-05 05:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by BeautifuLL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds obvious, but tell her how you feel. I know how hard it is being dumped by txt after a long relationship but just think, shes obviously not worth the heart ache. I dont think meeting her is the best idea, especially not for closure. It really doesnt work, I think you need to keep away from her, maybe start dating again, but keep her as far away from you as you can, until youre sure that theres no chance youre interested in her, and even when you get to that point, be very careful, because feelings can flood straight back. I got dumped last feb, and got over him in july, then i met up with him and ended up liking him again. I stopped seeing him for a few months, and i saw him friday night and now i know im totally over him =]
Give it more time xx
2007-02-05 05:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're on your way. You should tell her exactly that.
This may be your one and only time to get this off of your chest. Seize that opportunity, and make the most of it.
I find it cruel, that she would text you and say, "is this how its going to be...you ignoring me whenever you see me"? How crude of her!!!
Yea, this is how its going to be!!! Why should you show her so much respect when she didn't bother respecting you by breaking up with you in such a gross manner?
I hate women like that! She's taking advantage of your nice guy ways.
Sky, you are better off without her. Hold your head high. Next time you see her, smile as if you own the world, say hello and keep it moving. Do it for you. Not for her. As far as I am concerned, you've given that hag enough good graces.
You will feel much better once you get this off of your chest, and remember...don't dwell on how her actions hurt you, but re-enforce the fact that after a year and half, that she would have a little more respect for you guys' friendship.
You're a sweetie. And you'll be happy.
Good Luck!!!
2007-02-05 05:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you should NOT GO TO THE MEETING at all. You don't 'need closure' that you can get from this meeting, and you may say or do something 'wrong' to her that causes your 'situation' to drag on longer. Text her a message, saying 'I'm sorry, I can't meet with you, because I have better things to do with my life. You need to move on, too. Have a good one.' and sign your name. That is what she did to you when she 'texed' you to dump you ... then go out and do something 'totally different' so that you can meet 'new people' and give yourself time to 'get over her' ... you've already started by just 'ignoring her' when you saw her outside ... but you need to KEEP DOING THAT before she'll be able to learn that she has truly LOST a REALLY GOOD GUY! Good luck.
2007-02-05 05:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, there's no point in going into this all guns blazing - it's a shame it didn't work out, but it sounds like this woman has issues to sort out - so be there for her. Tell her you're sorry it didn't work out - and explain why you "ignored" her this morning - let her know it was him you were ignoring, not her.
By all means, tell her that how she broke up with you was not good - which it wasn't ! But don't smash her about the head over it....it's not worth it. And if you treat her right now, the karma will rub off and your turn will come.
Rog
2007-02-05 05:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Roger U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to meet you doesnt mean she still has feelings for you...even if she does it probably just guilt.
This may sound impossible to do right now but trust me..nothing you say to her will have much impact...u could as well send her back a text telling her how u felt.....my advice...move on...dont meet with her....cos ur taking two steps back from getting over her. Send her a text and wish her a happy life....u deserve more than that.
2007-02-05 05:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by verah_lee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she dumped by text sums up how she feels about you unfortunetely, i wouldn't meet up with her. What did she expect you to do ? Have a conversation with her while her ex was there. She just wants to keep you in the background in case shes made a mistake. You deserve better.
2007-02-05 06:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by How 2 ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not meet her..she dumped you by text your closure is going to be about you...allowing yourself to let her go..she is in a bad relationship with someone who hurts her....she is blinded and probally has low self esteem...the only thing i must say is if you see him hit her then u call the police..but otherwise stay out of it
2007-02-05 05:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by ♥queen b♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how hurt you were by the way she ended it give her a chance to apologise if she does take it from there. If you will be running into her often then there is no point in being anything other than friendly. Life is too short move on and live it.
2007-02-05 05:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by Joel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This chick has a kid with another guy, keeps going back to him, communicates sensitive stuff via texting and you want closure? The closure is "thank you ma'm for my freedom." Now go out and do better. She's a loser, and the sooner you recognize this the better off you'll be.
2007-02-05 05:01:32 · answer #11 · answered by FatElvis 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋