How can I enter a situation knowing that I can handle things, that I will be okay?

Question

My usual reaction to any type of challenge or conflict is to curl up in a ball and hide. I don't want to do that anymore. I want to go into a situation and know that I can handle whatever will happen. How can I prepare myself for any situation (dating, job interview, talking to my boss, meeting new people) in a positive and mature way?

Answer 1

You cannot be sure of the outcome of a situation.
However you can be sure that you will handle it the best you can.
You should learn techniques of communication and interaction to help you with those situations. But you will never be sure of the outcome. Try to move into handling things in the present moment. Try to understand the other person's perspective.
Learn skills:
marshall rosenberg's nonviolent communication
reflective listening
speaker listener technique
etc etc.

Answer 2

I think that you first need to ask why you respond to situations in that way. They can definatly be stressful, but they should not be so stressful as to warrent such a reaction. If I were you I would consider being evaluated for a anxiety disorder. You could receive conseling to help and/or medication.

It is hard to tell someone else how to become more assertive, and I don't think that anyone can give you a correct answer. The main thing that I would suggest is to start small and work your way up. You can also do play acting (another thing that therapy would be good for) about how certain situations may play out. Good luck. Don't let your fears stop you.

Answer 3

Pray about it! Ask God to guide your steps, conversation and thoughts! Know that He will be with you every second! He wants you to do great things with your life! Yes, you have to do your part too, so look yourself in the mirror and say "Yes, I can do it! And God is there to help me!"