This girl says that she loves her boyfriend and think he is the perfect man and the most wonderful thing in the world, but she doesn't want to be in a relationship with him because she sees herself with him forever and at such a young age she not ready to make that commitment. The commitment to be with someone forever. As conflicting as that is, she goes on to say that she sees herself with him in the future if he would just wait for her to get herself together. Please shed some light on this chaos, if at all possible....
2007-02-05 04:14:54 · 18 answers · asked by Sean B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OH I forgot to mention that she's been with this guy for years. I'm not sure how many but its been a while and she told the guy that she wanted to be with him forever and that "he was it" or something like that several times before.
Oh and please read the question people. SHE said he was perfect. Not HE.
2007-02-05 04:47:35 · update #1
She sounds young. Many girls feel this type of sincere devotion ("love") when they are young, but yet still feel the normal desire to experience other people in order to find themselves. It could be that she is truely in love and can see herself with this perfect man. However, she likely does not know herself well enough to settle down. That is a horribly confusing time for someone - not being personally ready for what the world has presented to you. For the man, this is difficult being asked to wait. He must judge if this is worth await and if he believes she will return to him when her personal journey is complete. She cannot honestly expect him to wait for her, but it sounds like she is prepaired to except this. It is a brave but very adult thing she is doing. Many relationships settle down before both partners have found out who they are. This is what often creates the desire to "cheat" or experiment with dating again. If this is how she feels, then it is probably for the best that she go about her way for a while.
2007-02-05 04:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by huntingrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A wise man once said "energy is wasted on the young"
Maybe she {and every young person out there} should have some fun spending that "energy" before you jump into a "forever "commitment.
Forever is a long-- time.
So have some fun, remember the clock's ticking!
2007-02-05 04:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by John P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's stringing the guy along. She's trying to make it sound like she's mature and has really thought things out, but she's really fairly immature.
She's trying to keep as many options open to her as possible. She's self-centered, thinking only of what will work best for her.
She's probably right that she's too young. And its good that she's not committing long term. But, she should not string the guy along.
2007-02-05 04:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's being smart. Even though he's a great catch, she still feels like she has some growing up to do. He may not want to go along for the trip, and she doesn't want to mess a possible relationship up, with her processes. He may be a bit more conservative and she just wants the chance to sow her "wild oats". Does this make sense?
2007-02-05 04:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a smart, insightful young woman. I wish I'd had that kind of insight when I was younger. It's hard to conceptualize this when you're young, but things change. Always. What you know in your heart right this minute may be an annoying memory in a few years. It's hard to imagine, but you learn this as you get older. That she knows this now is pretty amazing. Trust her.
2007-02-05 04:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear of guys doing that to girls all the time, but I don't hear the reverse very often. Anyway, it's silly to expect someone to wait around for someone else to "get themselves together". Only she knows what she's really thinking but for the guy, I'd say, go find some happiness somewhere else. She can't give him what he needs now. Tell her to look you up when she's figured it all out.
2007-02-05 04:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very mature. If someone is right for you, it will last through the "finding yourself" stage. You wouldn't want her to commit and have her always wonder if indeed you are the right one for her. She probably needs to sow a few wild oats first. If you can't take it, look elsewhere.
2007-02-05 04:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by kk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wants to see more! She wants to expierence new things before she gets tied down! Anyways, even if she was in a relationship it would end really fast because she wouldn't be 100% into it!
2007-02-05 04:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biblical love ability a super unsleeping option to choose what's ultimate in God's eyes to take place interior the existence of the guy whom you "love" The Greek be conscious is agape'. there is yet another Greek be conscious "eros" which refers to sexual "love" and it is not chanced on interior the Bible. of course breaking apart a marriage sanctified by God by committing the sin of adultery isn't demonstrating agape' love. quite that's a egocentric act designed to fulfill erotic desires that destroys human beings's lives as antagonistic to having God's ultimate for their existence come to pass.
2016-09-28 11:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possible translation.....
She wants to keep him hanging on because he might be a nice dependable man for the long term but she wants to keep her options open in the meantime just in case she meets mr sexy and nice. If she doesn't meet mr sexy and nice she'll just settle for him, mr nice.
(I could have it totally wrong though).
2007-02-05 04:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋