Nightmares about the big day?

Question

My wedding is on June 2nd of this year. I'm pretty much on track as far as planning and stuff that needs to be done. But I find I'm having nightmares EVERY NIGHT about something that goes wrong with my wedding. It's always different (one I forgot to bring the presents for the bridal party, one I forgot to get the marriage license, one nobody showed up and my wedding was horrible, etc.) Has anyone experienced anything like this, and what do I do? These nightmares are waking me up, and keeping me from falling back to sleep!!

BTW: I am very much in love with my fiance, and though there have been stresses planning, it has gone relatively well. We have been together for almost six years, and this is right in every way.

Thanks for the answers so far. I know that it's stress, and I understand that not everything will be perfect on that day. Heck, I even am expecting no sleep at all the night(s) before the wedding. What I didn't expect, and need help with now is not the nightmares per say, but the fact that I cannot get any sleep at all. And it's four months before the wedding. Any advice on how to sleep now? I'm not a big pill person.

Thanks again!

Answer 1

these dreams are completely natural, i haven't even set a date yet, and i've already had wedding nightmares. and it's not just for weddings either, it goes for any major event that you get stressed out about. it's just your mind's way of processing things, there's nothing wrong with it. you can talk to your doctor about a sleep aid if it's really that bothersome. congrats and good luck!

Answer 2

It's just pre-wedding jitters, that's all! Nothing to worry about! Most bride-to-be's have them and it's completely normal. A girl I used to work with was planning her wedding last year and me and another co-worker ended up pulling 3 gray hairs out of this 21-year-old's stressed out head. And on the subject of something going wrong during your wedding, I come from a family of wedding planners and we have a motto: it's not a true wedding unless something goes wrong! Something will go wrong and there's nothing you can do about it. It's inevitable. Most of the time it's something small, such as not enough mints or chicken fingers for all the guests, so don't obsess over it (don't worry, your dress won't rip as you walk down the aisle). But as I said, it's completely normal and everything will be fine! Good luck on the big day!

Answer 3

Take a day or two & go do something with your family or friends. Go window shoppong, have lunch; something.
As long as you look at your list & see that you have done everything you needed to, you'll be fine. Just stay organized.

So what will happen if you do forget the bridal party gifts? (might want to think about giving them at the rehearsal dinner) What if the ring gets stuck on someone's finger or it gets dropped during the ceremony?
Are you expecting perfection? There's no such thing. Be flexible, allow for human error. If something doesn't go e-x-a-c-t-l-y the way it was suppose to, keep going. Only those 'in the know' will & your guests will none be the wiser.

Try to stay focused on the reason you're getting married, instead.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

I am getting married next year. I also have been having wedding nightmares, but mostly about the dumbest things, like I didn't have everything organized, and no one came to my wedding, and things looked like crap. I think its just that I think about my wedding all the time that I end up dreaming about it. I am really obsessed with having everything organized and ready to go, and I am also a huge perfectionist. My dreams contradict everything I am but I've probably been having them because I am overwelmed and want everything to turn out ok. Your dreams are pretty normal for someone who has weddings constantly on their mind. I'm sure everything will go great when the day comes. :)

Answer 5

This is so normal, I can't even tell you. Everyone I know has had dreams like this before their big day. You're putting on a big party- there are many things that can go wrong. Our subconscious worries about them, even if we tell our conscious selves not to go crazy. This is totally normal. Tell yourself it's ok. Make lists of what still needs to be done. Accept that a few things many not turn out 100% perfect. It's ok. Everyone coming is family or friends. They are coming to be part of your special occasion, not for you to impress the pants off of them. Relax- it's gonna be great. And congratulations!!

Answer 6

it's the stress. just make sure to delegate so that when the day gets there nothing gets left behind. the last wedding i was in the bride forgot the runner, unity candle, and a few other assorted things. the wedding i went to last week the bride put 1 friend in charge of remembering each thing so nothing got left behind, and her mother got custody of the marriage liscense

Answer 7

Oh its def stress! I have been having horrible nightmares. I had one yesterday that i never picked out my flowers, and bridesmaid dresses. And everyone was so mad at me. Then i had another dream that my Dj never showed up. LOL. I hate having these dreams because they feel soooo real. I kept telling myself please wake up and tell me this isnt real. LOL. Us brides need a day to relax, we should treat ourselves to a day spa!! Good luck!!

Answer 8

Its just stress. I am gettin married in april and I have sort of the same dreams. Its going to be ok. You are just subcontiously thinking about what could go wrong.

Answer 9

Don't worry. Those are dreams (nightmares), and nightmares don't come true. What are the odds of those things happening, anyways? Just don't worry.

Answer 10

Its stress. Its nothing to worry about. Everyone goes through it.