Let me start by saying I have the loveliest boyfriend in the world. It's a long-distance relationship but we talk every day, he's really committed and I haven't been this happy in ages.
The problem is I've started looking at this guy at school. I don't know anything about him, he's only ever said one word to me, but I just love the way he looks and I keep finding myself staring at him whenever I see him...
How can I stop? I don't even like this guy, he's not very nice and I don't even want to talk to him. I just have a thing about him because of his looks. I love my boyfriend to bits, how can I stop myself staring at this other guy? It's just a habit now!
Please don't tell me to ask him out or anything; I need some proper advice here...
Thanks in advance!
2007-02-05 03:48:47 · 17 answers · asked by Hannah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Attraction isn't a choice! But how you handle yourself is! This sort of thing happens to everyone a few times in their life, and I can see that you're the rare, honest with herself type of girl who wants to do the right thing. :)
This guy will definitely be in your mind, so don't try to force and root him out! Just enjoy looking at him, coz it's ok and normal to have this kind of crush! Oh, and try talking about this with your boyfriend. See what happens, and he'll probably love you more for telling him your worries and feelings. :) Be patient with his response and hope things work out fine with you!
2007-02-05 04:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by Ken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey (",)
Seems like you 'allow' yourself to look. Its fine if you look, but if you feel it is getting out of hand... then try not to be around him. Look the other way when he is around, think about your bf everytime you see this guy.
You should end up realizing that you aren't looking at him all that much or you realize that you dont even notice him anymore. I also found a guy in my class was very attractive, but I knew he wouldn't want to try anything with me and most importantly... there were other girls (including friends) that had crushes on him, so I stayed away and just looked, and yes during those years I did have other bf's.
But darling, if after you notice that you get unhappy for being 'unable' to look at him, then don't make yourself stop... and who knows, if he doesn't have that bad a personality etc, and you think he may like you... then don't make excuses for not trying.
Good Luck!
Cheers sweetie.
2007-02-05 04:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said yourself he isnt a nice person and you dont want to talk to him so dont worry about it. Everyone has crushes and fantasises about handsome hunky guys or beautiful women. If he was famous then it wouldnt worry you, am i right? Youre allowed to dream its healthy and normal the only time to worry is if you act on it, not likely as you dont want to be with him in reality. I adore my husband but i still obsess over gorgeous men, it doesnt mean i dont love my other half. Dont worry about it it will burn itself out. You will soon be looking at him and laughing to yourself about your crush when you go off him, then another handsome bloke will take his place. Happy fantasies!!
2007-02-05 04:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by British*Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you see him, imagine his face turning to one of someone you absolutely hate. After a moment, look away and keep imagining that, and do that each time you see him. Eventually you will forget about him. Maybe after you stop feeling about him like that, you could have a cute laugh with your boyfriend, of imagining a guy to look worse than Micheal Jackson? C:
2007-02-05 04:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the guy at the top, the rubber thing
Also keep a pic of ur bf with u like on ur phone or something, anytime u find urself looking at the other guy, take his pic out and just glance at it to remind u that ur guys better :)
2007-02-05 03:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try thinking of your bf everytime this guy pops into your head. Think of all the great things about your bf then think of all the horrible things about this other guy.
2007-02-05 03:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is that nice ,dont give the other guy any food for thought.
2007-02-05 04:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by Linda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awwww hon it's a simple crush prolly since you haven't seen your bf as often as you'd like you just seen this guy who has great looks and he has gotten ur attention give it some time hon it will bypass!
2007-02-05 04:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
for sure dont ask him out forget him you just have got a crush on him you got to think of something else better to do especially if you dont like him it wont work ok
2007-02-05 04:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by harold g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't look back girl that guy its the love of your life, don't decide twice think once and go straight and tell him your looks to him and he will tell you that same thing its happening to him. its a GOD gift.
2007-02-05 04:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by phacs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋