The girl that claims she was carrying my baby just had a boy. When we went for the DNA testing it was proven that the boy is mine. I immediately told her that I would pay child support and told her that I would give her $250 a month for the baby.
She said that isn't enough and wants to fight it out in court. This is all I can afford at the moment. How can I get her to see that I want to support my son but don't want to be over extended. I know that he is part my responsibility and I offered to do what I could. Am I being unreasonable with the amount?
2007-02-05 03:47:45 · 14 answers · asked by JZ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Pay whatever you can until she takes you to court. Always pay the "support money" with a check or money order, so that you have prove that you are providing support for your son. If I am correct, the amount of child support that you are usually court ordered to pay is anywhere from 22 to 28 percent of your gross income. Hope this helps good luck.
2007-02-05 05:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pull up your big boy pants and realize that a lot of parents end up having babies and don't have the money to cover everything,BUT they have to do what ever they can. IF you have to sell something then do it. If she takes you to court you will have to pay child support and keep insurance on this child until he is 18 or in some cases 21. $250.00 a month will not cover half of what it cost to raise a child for a month in the USA!!!! Some men get Lucky and don't have to pay that much, I know a guy that they only hold out $40.00 a week out of his check but he only makes $12.00 an hour. I think the court will go by your bills that you have and how much money you make in a months time.
Going to court could be the best thing to do if you want to see your child. They will put everything into writing and both you and the mom will have to obey the rules are risk going to jail.
2007-02-05 12:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by leea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support is generally based on both parties income. I think the notion that you don't want to be overextended is a day late and a dollar short. When you have children, generally speaking, being over extended is a responsibility you have to accept. Unless you're one of the fortunate few who simply have more money than you know what to do with. I am sure teh custodial parent would like to not have the option of being "over extended" as well, but for the custodial parent, it's never an "option". At the end of the day, it would be wise to find a child support calculator for your state or county of residence, frequently you can find these online by plugging in the area of residence and child support calculator into a search engine. Enter your income and her income to see what amount would be required by court if it were to get to that point.
2007-02-05 12:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by Marlietta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girl friend has a right to ask for more because it takes a lot of money to raise a baby. For your sake you do need to go through the courts, and they will asses how much you have to pay according to your job. Not only that, it will establish rights for you as his parent. So let her set up the court hearing, and you be really kind to her. Do what you can for the baby and explain it all to the judge just like you said it here. You are not a dead beat dad and that is good. Use this court stuff to your advantage. You and your son will have a better life for it.
2007-02-05 15:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I would let the courts decide. They may decide she is to get less. You want it court ordered and kept track of by the courts so she can't say you didn't pay. Also you will want the court to order her to let you have visitation. I would also like to add... I think you are being completely fair in the amount. You can google child support calculators for your state and they can give you an estimate of what the courts may order. Good luck and Congrats on the son!
2007-02-05 11:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well it depends on both of your situations. Does she work? If so dont you think you should pay for half the daycare? is he formula fed? is she on WIC (gives free formula through the state) Babies are very expensive. I think $250 is standard child support just about anywhere and she may be trying to be greedy, but if that baby has to go to childcare, you should help pay half that per month also.Its not fair for all the other responsibilities on her. Flip the situation and see if you could get along on that per month.
2007-02-05 12:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by cherokee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always go through the courts. That way you know when and how much is to be paid. Most states take it directly out of your paycheck before you even see it. And if you set it up that way, she will never be able to say you didn't pay. It's less of a stress if you let the courts decide. They will base it on your income.
2007-02-05 11:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by katymlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The amount depends on a few things. The courts base it on your income and your expenses. I have a male friend that has to pay $400 a month and then 33% of things like camp and childcare.
2007-02-05 12:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal Experience my hubby gave me 600 a month, but that is only because he had a really good job. I was also working and that really helped me to pay the bills and sometimes have a little extra left over. I think 250 is the average rate, but you can research it here: http://www.census.gov/population/www/pop-profile/chldsupp.html. Good luck and I am glad you are taking responsibility. Many fathers don't and the kids grow up not knowing them.
2007-02-05 11:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by angie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget telling her how much she will get from you. Let the court decide. This way it can be kept track of and she can't claim that you didn't pay. Plus the Judge can order her to give you visitations with the boy.
2007-02-05 11:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by Sexie Gal 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋