For Guys when Men say/do these things what does it really mean? Serious answer please...?

Question

My BF of 1 1/2 years, all over sudden wants me to be more independent, he wants me to let him go out until early in the morning 7a.m. & not go through his stuff. He tells me I am too emotional & that it stresses him out. He says that he cant stand me when I'm complaining, but then he appologisez quick saying he didnt mean that. He says he loves me but he doesnt act like it, he tells me its my fault for the way he is. I dont understand that if I am so terrible why doesnt he just leave? He slapped me in my face twice witha open hand & the second time I had a bloody nose, I cryed & he said that crying just pisses him off and he has no sympathy so if I want him to like me I best stop crying. I can never be mad or ask anything from him the relationship has to be on his turns. I put him out last night after he left again, just so that he could come back in the house (I have no phone to call 911) & he slept in the bed & he said to hug him why for what? Why doesnt he want to leave? I love him.

Then he calls this morning while I am at work & says he is sorry he shouldnt come home like that & keep me updated, so then when I start talking & I tell him you know what this has to stop because one day your sorrys will run out he gets mad. & then he says why I just cant let **** go...& that I am nagging him... & i am like alright I just need to stop naging him then. & he says you just need to calm down breath dee, move on let it go it happened yesterday..but its so hard to just never be mad especially when I get hurt like that & I am just always supposed to act like it nver happened after he says sorry but everytime it gets so much harder!

I guess I just dont get it...when he gets angry he says that how he expresses his feelings. i have been hee before & when I was treating my ex like this it meant nothing good it meant I didnt want to be with him..& thinking of that makes me feel insecure. He says my insecurity stresses him out, so then I go out (eventhough I dont feel like it) & have a pretty good time, only to find out that he uses my time out & gone to go out himself & stay out over night who knows where. He says if I feel that I have the right to go through his stuff, & i said that at this point where my trust is gone cause of what he does "yes" & he hit me on my head & said I trea him like a lil boi but I dont get it...if i looked through his phone a few times & i wouldnt find anything I would naturally just quit...& he just doesnt want to move out...I am so sad because I wish it could just be a happy relationship I wish we could love eachother the way we used to. Because after all I really do care about him.

Answer 1

Let him have some space and let him know that you appreciate his time. Try not to "cring" so tightly or you'll drive him away.