Is it normal to feel awkward with my boyfriends 5 year old daughter?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and I love him to bits. He has a 5 year old daughter to another woman and gets access to her 3 or 4 times a week. For some reason I've been avoiding having to properly meet her and only see him on the days he doesnt have her, I just feel awkward about the whole thing, incase she doesnt like me or she asks me questions that I can answer. Is this normal?

Answer 1

Instead of waisting time on the net, you need to talk to him.

Answer 2

I'm engaged to a man that has a 6 year old son with another woman. I met his child shortly after we started dating 2 years ago and I felt like it was too early. I needed time to be with the man in him before the dad in him. I want kids, but it is hard when they aren't your own. Sit your boyfriend down and explain to him that you love him and your sure you'll love his daughter but things need to be taken slow. You dont want to force the relationship because take it from someone who knows, that makes it worse. Maybe try seeing them once a week when he haves her...go to dinner than let them hang out...then gradually up it to more days. If he respects you and your feelings, he won't get mad. If he does, than he isn't worth it

Answer 3

I think those are fairly normal feelings. My boyfriend has a child with another woman and it took me a bit to meet him because it felt a little awkward but you have to remember that along with your boyfriend comes his daughter. Don't be scared at what you could feel. I love my boyfriend's son. He's energetic, smart, precocious, overall adorable but I wouldn't have found any of that out if I'd have continued to hinder myself.

Also be mindful of how this makes your boyfriend feel. My boyfriend once told me that he felt as though I didn't want to engage in his history or the things that are important to him. So don't hinder yourself if you love your man and get to know his daughter. He'll love to know you want to get to know her as well. Kids are great they keep us young! Talk to your man and make the jump.