How do you get over someone who was not great to you in the first place . He was horrible to me , very emotional draining relationship, He always said he was my friend , but how do you treat your friend like a prostitute and the get worked up when they dont want to be with you or be your friend. I truelly cared about him and deep down thought he was a good person . But i am very hurt and very angry and hate him and myself even more for have wasted time on some who so me just as a booty call. He friend s where not the most positive people either, they into drugs and all claim they just want to sleep around and have fun . He tries to get me to hang out but i wont do it , i just cant seem to get over him
2007-02-05 03:37:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is an easy one, you're in luck! He's an emotional bully, and you can certainly do without that; we all can =) Because of whom he hangs out with and how he's infuenced, he directs that towards you. If you're in a relationship, it should be fun, trusting, honet and open communication etc...not someon who's nasty, emotionally blackmailing, etc. Who needs all that? I've been through some of those myself and when I ended, I felt like a million bucks! Right now, you're missing what you don't have in that relationship but could find in another one; so go for it!
2007-02-05 03:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of girls/women go through the same thing.The guy doesn't love us but we still love him. Why?? There can be many answers to this.
Maybe you were seeking love for a long time, and when that guy came into your life, you mistook the little attention he gave you for love and clung to it. You were vulnerable, and he took advantage of it.
Maybe you don't have any self respect.
Maybe you are still hoping that there was some love coming from him in that relationship.
Maybe you only hoped all throughout, when nothing ever existed.And now you are so accustomed to it, that you can't stop thinking about it.
It is not love, it is a habit.
2007-02-05 03:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st-this isn't about you, this is about him. He let you see what he wanted you to see. he used you, he let you think that he was a good person.
Love yourself, know that you did nothing wrong. You cared about someone that was not capable of caring about you in return. There is a lesson to be learned here (I have had to learn a very similar lesson myself)
Do you think you deserve to be treated this way? NO, no one deserves to be treated this way!!!! Love yourself, never speak to him again, count your blessings that you learned about the true him before you had a child together and/or got married, and live your life. Don't worry, there is a man out there that will treat you with the love and respect you deserve!
2007-02-05 03:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by daisy31 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He loved Drugs. He didn't love you. You don't have feelings for a Heart that never wanted you. Now show some self respect. You're better than they are. Enjoy your Life. Without them!
2007-02-05 03:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tina T - Try not to take anything I say personally, as it may offend...I will try not to, but I really want to help you, so read carefully...we as females tend to complicate things. We as people can fix our mouths to say anything we want - it is the actions that really tell the story of what is going on in our heads. Any one who claims to be a friend/love you is not going to drain you emotionally....and they are definitly not going to treat you like a mattress - you are good enough to lay on, but thats all...no way! You say above that you "truly cared about him, and deep down thought he was a good person".....his actions demonstrate that he is not, at this time a good person, and definitley not good for you. Think about it....what would make you think that he was a good person?....when he demonstrated clearly that he was not!? A lot of the time, the trouble with us girls is that we are in love with the ideal of being in love....so deeply are we in this illusion that we will accept anything, just to have that "attached" feeling, regardless of how the guy is treating us, and then we call it "love"!! It is the being alone and rejection that females need to learn how to handle and deal with...don't hate him - the more you hate him, the more you give his memory power to make you feel inferior and rejected...this is why you cannot get over him - you keep rolling the same question over in your head "WHY"?....and it comes back full circle to you wanting something that is not good for you/that you cannot have...don't hate yourself!! On the contrary, recognize that you are worth a functioning loving relationship...learn from this experience...you are simply a victim of your own feelings and emotions - the good news is that you do not have to continue to be! Get yourself in check - keep in mind the makings of a good relationship - and strive toward guys with those traits! Your ex is a waste of space at this point - defintley do not hang with him or his waste of space druggie friends! You do not want to pick up his habit...which some women will foolishly do in order to try and "understand" their man! That never works!!!!!! All that succeeds in doing is creating another drug addict....you can get over him - remind yourself that you are worthy of a healthy relatiosnhip, and that he is the one with issues! Feel free to e-mail me if you want - good luck!!
2007-02-05 04:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by ST 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has some things to work out and hope he does.
Just go live your own life, maybe sometime downt he road he will have grown up and seen what a good person you were.
But dont wait and waste your precious time on thinking of him.
He is not thinking of you is he?
Maybe you will have a great guy by then.
Give him time to grow up, but go on.
2007-02-05 03:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about all the bad times, how he hurt you inside and out. Girl if i were you I'd be on the other side of the world (relationship terms, like you can't move on but I would be way over him! get it? lol)
2007-02-05 03:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tina...we have all had relationships that were not "good" for us...the secret to moving on past these people is to understand that loving someone is not always enough to make a good balanced relationship....sometimes people are just not compatable..if we do not honor the relationship we have with ourselves..neither will others...you deserve to be treated with respect by anyone who claims to love you...walk away knowing that he has helped you with a lesson in life...even if it is just a clearer picture of what you "don't" want in your next relationship...good luck
2007-02-05 03:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend told me one time the best way to get over one is to get under one. So i took her advise and found a wonderful man that treats me with the upmost respect.
2007-02-05 03:42:27 · answer #9 · answered by melissas69er 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cry everything out.. just keep crying... it helps you heal. and don't try to get over someone. like trying hard to hide memories and seeing him. it takes time, so be patient.
to get over him: please do hide notes, pictures, stop seeing&talking to him to him
if you plan on talking to him, make sure his nice to you, it's easier to get over him. but if his still that jerk, ignore him.
2007-02-05 03:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by xlilazngrylx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋