I want to date and find the right guy, but I'm a single mom with 3 kids whiched I raised all there lives. Guys see that and there gone, well I think they do. And right away they think Im looking for a dad for them, but there wrong. How could I find that right guy for me and my kids?
2007-02-05 03:36:40 · 20 answers · asked by M L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi contact my friend he is in the same boat as you have a chat you never know.
peterjackson230971@hotmail.com.....if you do msn put this in add to email and then talk or email him or ring 07894747821.
say maria told you to call.
hope this helps.
maria.p
2007-02-05 04:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by maria p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a single mother of 2 kids and I felt the same way sometimes still do! But I found alot of great friends who accept my kids and love being with them. The trick is~~ find a man that has kids too!!( try a park or somewhere where theres kids!) Just dont rush into this. Take the time to find the right one because obviously we messed up on trusting the first one! Just keep an eye out,
2007-02-05 11:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by smile114 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My friend had this same problem so he started dating people who were divorced with children. That took care of the having a child issue right away. Now he can focus on more important things in a new relationship, like getting to know one another and not worrying about the kids as much.
2007-02-05 11:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by brotherman2112 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why the heck do you want to date? Why put yourself through the aggravation? Didn't your relationship with your kids' father prove to you that men are a waste of time? Why do you want to deal with all those step-parent complications? Grow a backbone and stop being so needy. That's the real reason guys don't want to date you!
Another thing...be very careful of the guys who do want to date you. A lot of pedophiles prey on single moms.
2007-02-05 11:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i must say that might be hard to accomplish but the right guy will come eventually. my mom is 39 yrs. old and she have 4 kids including me. usually when a guy sees that u have kids they automatically think that oh u want them to help u with ur kids meaning spending alot of money for u and them, and that's kinda hard to do for a guy that don't have kids. but if they do have kids then u know they could understand where ur coming from and they won't have a problem with u... but yeah good luck with that sweety!
2007-02-05 11:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by •°iiFia1125°• 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have a hands full.... girl>>>>.guys now days want a single girl with no kids. yea they might be around for a couple of weeks and then there gone. you might find a guy that might love you but not the little ones. i'm sorry but that is the true...good luck and take care.....
2007-02-05 11:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by snnopy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep dating. Tell the guy right away about your kids. The right one will stay.
2007-02-05 11:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Keep locking, we're out there you just have to look and don't be put off because of a few guys.
Me, I'd love to hook up with a mother of a young daughter (I had a son and my ex wouldn't let me try for a daughter). I've always wanted to dress them up in those little Sunday or Easter dresses and take them to dance recitals and well, basically spoil the crap out of a little girl.
2007-02-05 11:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is what i did i told them i had kids right off the bat but i told them i wasn't looking for a father they have one and i also told them they were not going to meet them till we both knew it was going to be alot more then dating and having fun. just be honest and don't bring the kids in till you know he may be the one and he knows your the one work on the relationship first then bring in the kids because kids make it harder if you don't have a foundation first...I'm remarried and we are both having fun and enjoying the kids and the kids enjoy having him as a step father and they each have a relationship with him as i have a relationship with him and we will be having his first child later this yr... good luck and don't give up.. there are good men who want to be with you and your kids just be smart and be Cassius of those who want to be to involved with your kids that's a red flag if you know what i mean....
2007-02-05 11:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by tlcoufan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I could be that guy,
Your having three kids dose not bother me.
I am a single older man that has never been maried and has no children.
Well there you go.
2007-02-05 11:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋