been dating this guy for 2mnths now. sofar, he's been honest, generous with his time and money and has been extremely reliable.. we spend a lot of time together and its great except for a couple of things: he has a quick temper and is always complaining about how mean the world has been to him despite the fact that he's fortunate enough to own properties that he can make a living off of. i always listen to his complaining and when i reach out to touch him, he yells and tells me not to touch him when he's mad.. so now i let him complain till he gets tired. 2)he has a wondering eye, where he stares at every female in a skirt.. i'm very good looking, so it makes me wonder how he could look at other females when he's with me..he talks about how cute this and that woman is and when i see someone attractive on tv or something he criticizes me and blows everything out of proportion.. well at least i don't stare at every man walking past! when i confronted him, he said his reply was.. you haven't even given me any sex and you're complaining about me staring at other women? then last night hetold me that i shouldn't get too attached to him and he's not going to get attached to me cuz he's not looking toget hurt. this confused me cuz he calls me almost everyday keeping a tab on me, asks me where i want him to take me, asks me to work with him, asks me to take vacations with him, talks about longterm plans. so what does he mean he doesn't want us to get attached.. his words contradict his actions..i'm thinking of distancing myself. whats up with him?
2007-02-05 03:33:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
RUN (don't walk) away and fast! This manhas so many red flags in his behavior patterns it's scary. It will only get worse if you two become "attached" or worse, committed.
Anger control issues and feelings of victimization are a sign of immaturity and a lack of coping techniques. Life is tough for every one of us at one time or another, you just learn to deal with things and manage the stress level. His yelling at you is way out of line and indicates a lack of respect at least for you if not women in general.
A "wandering eye" this soon is also a deal breaker. His excuse that you haven't given him sex is a pathetic attempt to manipulate you to sleep with him and justify his urge to look at other women. It won't stop once you sleep with him, it'll probably get worse because he'll be looking for new validation from someone else. He should respect you and your body and honor the choice you make to be selective about who you share it with. That is to be respected and honored, not put down and used against you.
This man seems highly insecure, angry, very manipulative and emotionally needy. You can't fix him girl, he has to do that himself and I bet he doesn't think he has a problem. Distancing yourself is an understatement - Leave skid marks getting away from this one...
Good luck. There are a few nice guys out there. You'll find one.
2007-02-05 03:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by hrh_gracee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leaave him! he wants sex cant u tell ! he actually sed it 2 ya that u ant given him it - n i respect u for that,.
on the other hand, u luv urself so u nt insecure bou him lukin up udars asses!lol his long term plan idea is just a way of wrappin u around his finger. leave him .. ull b better off. if he loved n respected u he wudnt loose his temper so wildly infront of u. plus, if he was angry , he wudnt mind u touchin him if he loved u...
show him the door.. AND the middle finger the player! lol
so tkcr then shamzy x
2007-02-05 11:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Madam M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb girrrrrl! Easier said than done i know esp if you're feeling him. But he does sound a but weird. I hate when guys wont let you touch them when they are in a mood...(kiss me teet) I suggest you go for something better.
Peace Out
2007-02-07 10:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by buff1ne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say get out now.....this is headed for some major problems and he doesn't sound like he's all there......there are already signs of possible abuse and infidelity ..... don't stay
2007-02-05 11:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by unicorns_77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is jst MAD! but i agree with him on 1 point-don't get attached to this fool coz he has already spoiled his life n now he'll spoil urs
2007-02-05 11:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun that means.....dump him!
2007-02-05 11:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋