your friends say you dont really love a guy cuz u wont have sex. i mean they said u have sex when you truely love some1. but i dont want to have sex so doesthat mean i dont love him? im 13 and dont tell me im not old enough to b in luv cuz i am. and its not just hormones either i really do luv this guy.
2007-02-05 03:25:49 · 12 answers · asked by summer :] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As you know already know love is complicated. One thing is for sure sex complicates, not simplifies, relationships. There is no need to have sex with someone to show your love, sex for this reason shows exactly the opposite.
Your not to young to be in love, I don't think people who say that really mean it that way. I think until you have been in love with many people and had your heart broken a few times it is hard to put one relationship in context. You love him that is for sure, but it is likely that you will love a lot of people in your life. When people say you are to young to be in love they mean that you are to young to have loved enough people to put this relationship in context with the complexity and depth of your emotional possibilities. Or in other words, your age has not allowed you to have the level of experience necessary to know that this will probably not be the last boy you will ever love and that future loves of yours may allow you to experience love in many ways.
But you are in love and being young and in love is wonderful. One thing is sure having sex while being young and in love will take the wonderful simplicity of being young and in love away from your relationship. If you care about your relationship and this boy you should keep it simple and enjoy the time you have together and the beauty of being in love without complicating the relationship.
good luck
2007-02-05 03:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all who ever told you that. They were wrong. I am 16 and also in love I fell in love with my 1st love at 13, so whoever also said you are to young is dumb . LOL! Well if you have sex with him so early(I am even to young) He will lose total respect for you and think you are easy! The longer you wait the more special the relationship becomes.... True love is all about time, when you rush into things it isn't fun......I am waiting until I get married.. They WILL lose respect for you.... Trust me........ I have seen this happen a million times.
2007-02-05 11:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i can relate to you on this I am in love too and my mom says that i shouldn't be because i'm just 16 but you don't have to have sex with a boy to show him that you love him. me and my boyfriend havent had sex and we have been going together for almost 2 year and i plan on staying a virgin until i feel like the time is right
2007-02-05 11:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by kuntry_blaque16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are not believing everything you hear, and not really listening to your friends. You can love someone and not have sex with them. Just because you don't want to go to that level yet does not mean you don't love him, follow your heart and not your friends. Don't allow this peer pressure to cause you to do something that you may regret later. Are your friends still in relationships with the guys they've had sex with? Take your time and don't rush.
2007-02-05 12:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by Celie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you when you say that your in love I'm 24yrs and met my husband when I was 13 too. I did'nt want to have sex and I know he did, but he respected my wishes and agreed to wait. so if you don't want to then don't. Just because your friends say what they say is not always true. 100 bucks says the friend who gave you that quote will have a baby first! And your off to living a great life!
2007-02-05 11:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can love someone...but you must give it time to develop into something beautiful. Sex is something that should be beautiful, not just something for pleasure. When you are ready, you will know it...just give it time and it will be better in the end. Rushing will only make you regret it in the end. Your virginity is something you should keep sacred, once it's gone...it's gone forever. Make it special, but only when you're ready.
2007-02-05 11:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by sad red head 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i aint gunna say ur not ready b/c i was havin sex at 12, but I regret that ALOT ALOT now I pray for my virginity back!! I'm in love right now but we're waiting bc it'll make it that much better when it does happen!! SAVE THE MAGIC!
2007-02-05 11:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by Adrianna N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is the biggest bull**** that i have ever heard. i dont even know wat to say. the Answer is NO! you're only thirteen you don't have to do that. DOn't listen to anybody who ever told you that thats so wrong. You have to remember that LOVE IS NOT SEX< SEX IS NOT LOVE! you can love a guy so much, more than anything in the world and you don't have to. Don't worry about that. you have a lot to learn. And your friends are wrong. VERY WRONG.
2007-02-05 11:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can love someone w/o sex. there's no need for you to do that at a young age. wait till you're older..
stressing that your pregnant (condom breaks, no protection) is just too much for a 13 yr old
2007-02-05 11:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by xlilazngrylx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand i love my b/f.My friend is 12 and she was in love with her b/f and she went to his house last week and they had sex but now she regrets it so i think you sould wait kay sweetie
2007-02-05 11:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋