I am 16 and use an online highschool, my mother does not support me at all and i find it hard to motivate myself to actually do the work without real deadlines for any of my assignments, i am wayyyyy behind in my junior year and want to graduate on time. Could some one please suggest ways to get my mother to help me complete my education or find some support system?
There is no homeschooling groups in my area btw, and my dad lives in kentucky which is a 3 day drive from here. so he is no help.
2007-02-05 03:19:57 · 11 answers · asked by bamf 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
What do you mean by your mother doesn't support you--she doesn't agree with you doing it or she just doesn't help you out? If she doesn't agre with the online schooling, don't try to get her to do anything. If she's just not helping you, just talk with her and explain that you need a little bit of a push and are afraid that you won't graduate on time without it.
If you are doing an online high school, do they not have teachers who can help you out? Who can provide a suggested schedule or something? Is there possibly a student forum for you to chat with other students from that school?
While there may not be a homeschool support group in your area, you may be able to locate a regional group online, or a state group with an email list for students. You might be able to find some support that way.
Now, back to your earlier problem of no deadlines, this is actually an opportunity for you to learn a valuable skill: set your own deadlines and do what you need to to stick to them. This means that you have a good look at what you have left to do and consider how long it would take you. Do you have the right to take an extra month or so? For example, to finish it at the end of June? Whatever your deadline is, even if you have to give yourself a deadline like June 30, figure out for each subject how much you need to get done per month to finish, then break it down per week. Then each week you can work out what you'll get done per day.
An important part of this is to clarify your own goals: what is your long-term goal? Right now it sounds like finishing school on time. Keep this as your focus. As you work through your stuff, remember that you want to get done on time. Each time you are tempted to push aside your work for something that seems more fun, remember your goal. Also, it's really an either-or situation: you either are working towards your goal (towards success) or you are choosing to NOT succeed. Think about that as you work out your own personal deadlines.
I'm not saying this is easy--it may be very difficult. But it's an opportunity for personal growth. It will make you stronger if you let it!
2007-02-05 08:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by glurpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. I know we all struggle with getting projects accomplished on time!
If your mother has not been helping you thus far, I am just thinking she is not going to be much help from here on in, so let's just cancel her as a resource and see what else we can do.
Just because there are no hsing groups in your area does not mean there are no homeschoolers. You only need ONE nice hs mom to come to your house and set you up with some goals. It does not sound to me like you are going to have anyone but yourself to motivate YOU to reach those goals. Maybe if you check hslda.org and find the group in your state, maybe they will have someone you can talk to that can help.
Write down WHY it is important for you to finish your work, and the consequences of not finishing, then set up specific hours in which you are going to do your school, and make a firm resolve that there are activities you will NOT participate in until you have worked x number of hours/day. For instance, no tv, no computer not connected to your schoolwork, no telephone, no reading, etc.
I'm sure you can do this! Just reaching out for help is a big step, and you now need to take the next step. Even if someone helps you get started on a schedule, you are going to have to do the actual work yourself.
2007-02-05 07:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you mom should be helping you, thats not right that she isnt supporting your school career, but you can do a lot and even have your mom try to help. first off you need to set your mom straight (in a nice calm manner) and tell her what is up and how you feel about not having any help. and second, you need to figure out a schedule in which you work on your assignments. take some time and plan what you will accomplish each week and make mini goals. (i.e you learn 1 or 2 chapters of math a week)
it might seem like a lot, but after you reach a week of working on your online courses, you will be suprised at how well you do. And if you are stuck at a problem, talk to your mom about it, or even try calling a friend that can help you out. If you want to be successful in life, you have to take responiblilty for your actions and for your future. I wish the best of luck to you and your schooling. I hope i was able to help you out! :]
2007-02-05 08:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Mom has to work full time? Unfortunate that you are behind.
Some homeshooling organzations have websites. Send your question to them. Ask if they are able to hook you up with other teens in your situation, and pehaps find a group or a family or a fellow student you can be accountable to, even if only in a general way.
Try keywords like Homeschool, etc.
good luck
2007-02-05 04:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by royandpeg@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi kay, my son is also 16, 11th grade, and using an online high school. (his is pa-cyber and I'm shocked at how hard it really is...was expected easier stuff...) anyway, although I do nag him a bit (Mothering101) , I try to leave it up to him because I want him to feel the brunt of what responsibilty feels like. You both are getting too old for mommy to MAKE you take care of yourselves...this is about YOUR life. Think about it, in approx. 800 days, you will be a legal adult and expected to tackle life and all its decisions about money, jobs, relationships, and time management on your own. THIS now is your chance to practice.
2007-02-09 02:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by kawoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, she might regret not taking the time. As a mother w full time job i realize how much i missed with my kids. Every time they asked i would help.
Maybe u can talk to ur minister about this or a school counselor.
IF NOT:
Set goals 4 ur self, & when accomplished give ur self a little reward.The more u accomplish the bigger the reward.
2007-02-06 09:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16, I would expect any of my kids to be completely self-sufficient in setting time lines, goals, etc. My 17-year-old and 16-year-old both chose non home schooling options this year (public high school), after nine years of being in a home school charter program.
They get themselves up, do their work and complete their assignments because they WANT to, with no prodding from me.
SO............If you REALLY want to graduate on time, get off YA!, and DO YOUR WORK!!!!!!!!
2007-02-05 06:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by hatchland 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, your mom seems little different than many of my public school students' parents. They too are often not involved. I wish I had some advice for you. Just know that your mom is really little different from the majority of moms. It is my experience that too few parents really care. - I'm not bashing parents, just commenting on what I see daily.
2007-02-05 04:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ought to't stand my mom.....hell no. it is the reason I left living house and for the reason that then i'm a contented human being. She change right into a racist, biggot, controling, 2 confronted, knowledgeable, rich, condescending, grasping asshole..some all and multiple isn't ment to be mom and father!
2016-11-02 09:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set your own timelines. You're 16 annd should be able to do it.
2007-02-05 08:02:32 · answer #10 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋