On Thursday this girl started showing interest in me. I was so taken by surprise that I couldnt bring up the nerve to ask her out because she is so beautiful and Im not. So I would like some advice on how to ask her out and how I can conquer this vulgar shyness? I feel if I dont succeed here with this beautiful woman whom I like alot, then there is no hope for me.
2007-02-05 03:17:15 · 8 answers · asked by maguathehearteater 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok well calm down and take a deep breath. The world is not ending here lol. But alright if this girl likes you and you know it then just be direct with her and talk to her. Be honest and true to yourself when you are with her and talking to her. As for your shyness don't worry. We all have our moments but as you get to know her your shyness will come down after awhile. If your too shy to talk to her directly right now then why don't you try talking to her on the phone,writing her a letter,or if she has email why don't you try writing her on the interent? There are lots of ways around this you nust need to decide which way is right for you. Don't worry. Everything will be alright. Like I said just be you and things will work out for you. Good luck!
2007-02-05 03:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Courage isn't really the lack of fear. It is simply the will to face those fears--to move forward even though you are afraid. Really, what is the worst thing that could happen? She may not return your interest. If she is a quality woman, she will be kind in how she lets you know that. If she is not a quality woman, you don't want her anyway, and you will have made a lucky escape.
But perhaps she does return your interest. The only way to know is to pursue what you think you've already noticed and ask her out.
I overcame shyness by being honest. I will tell someone, "I feel like a complete dork right now . . . " and then I say what I need to say. Most everyone likes someone who can be a little vulnerable and honest. Most everyone will respond by revealing something about themselves.
Another way I overcame shyness was by making plans. For example, when I go into a work situation where I won't know people, I plan ahead to move to the center of the room to look for an empty seat (rather than sitting in the back) and to immediately introduce myself to several people and to work to remember their names. I think of a question or two that I can ask most anyone to help generate converstation, and then I listen closely to answers. I plan before I get into the situation.
So face your fear. You will be amazed how freeing it is, and how facing other fears in your future will become easier and easier.
Best wishes.
2007-02-05 03:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girl is showing intrest in you, then take the active approach and ask her out. Suggest going to dinner sometime, or if you know what she likes as a hobbie or past time, suggest doing something along those lines. If she's into movies then ask her out to the movies. If she's into charity ask her to go do something charitable, and if she likes you then ask her to go out w/ you. If your not comfortable on a 1 on 1 thing ask a few friends out. Make it comfortable for all of you. It sounds like to me she is interested in you, so act on it now before some else does. good luck and just remember to BE YOURSELF!
As for you not being beautiful you are, and it sounds like to me you have a beautiful heart too.
Getting over being shy is hard, so take baby steps. If
2007-02-05 03:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, what's the very worst thing that can happen? She declines to go out with you and you move on. You never get anything in life without asking for it or working towards the goal. You muster up your courage and ask. If she says "no" it's solved. If she says "yes", plan a romantic date and treat her with respect. I doubt you're "not beautiful", also. She showed interest in you, so you can't be too unattractive.
2007-02-05 03:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by David M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put yourself down. There's something you have that must be attractive to her. Women are usually more mature than men are at first. It's not all physical/looks that matter. Just be thankful she seems to be interested in u & just be yourself. I'm still like you in that way, & I've missed out at times, cuz I didn't know what 2 say...So just let her do the talking. Figure out some DEEP-type questions to get her started, & then just play it by ear!
2007-02-05 03:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by nomutilation4me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off
u need to love ur self
second u need to believe in ur self
maybe physically u feel like ur not attractive
well think of things u can offer her that no other man could
and work for there
i m shy too but my trick is, pretend that person is a friend and talk to them normal
it works all the time
goodluck
2007-02-05 03:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girl is already showing interest in you then you are cutting short your already found success with her. She likes you. You like her. Ask her to go with you to the mall and then sneak in lunch together while you are there. I mean you have got to eat, right?
2007-02-05 03:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ok i think i have an answer, well this is kind of stupid but u asked go to her and ask her out but don't look at her, but at the same time don't act all nervous and stuff you know. so that's it
2007-02-05 03:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋