My mom asked me to die just bcz i am not very pretty and not very smart.She shouts at me whenever she gets a chance.Though i tried my best to make peace with her and did things to please her she completely hates me.I am not old enough to leave
2007-02-05 03:02:16 · 52 answers · asked by madhu mitha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You sound like a strong and brave daughter....do you have any school counselors, church pastors, or adults that you feel close to? You really need to talk to another adult about this. Your mom is supposed to be your protector, not your antagonizer. You should not have to live with this abuse. Does she ever hit you? If so, you should really call the police. Try to find an adult that you trust, and confide in them.
2007-02-05 03:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by Liza 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, i can feel how humiliated and disrespected you are! i think your mother is being far beyond ungrateful for having you! I am sure you've been so understanding as u said you have tried so hard to make your relationship WORK but nothing seems to be any better right?
the first thing you have to do is to talk to someone who's close to your mom, whether it's a friend or a reletive, you must find out how she feels about you cuz anyway she's a human being and people are not usually nice in anger, some people don't have their anger under control so they say crazy things even to their beloved ones,
take her to a psychologist to make sure she hasn't SERIOUS mental problems!{and if she refuses to go, ask for some help from your school adviser or anyone who could have influence on her}
in case you didn't succeed,if you have a very close friend or a reletive who can support you for a while, pack your bags and move ,i'm sure she'll have a second thought in her behaviour and want you back at home! and IF NOT just don't be around her much not to give her a reason to start yelling at you, bee cool and don't pay attention to what she says, just do your best to become independant as soon as possible!:)
2007-02-05 03:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by *Shiny*** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, i am terribly sorry to read this. I hope things works for the best. I would encourage you to be and stay strong. If you have any relatives that you can go to, i would suggest you to go there. You didn't mention how old you were, although you said you were too young to leave. If you don't have any relatives, then just don't upset her, don't interact with her that much. Just do your things (school, job if you have...) and will come the day when you can leave home. Until then, good luck with all this. A mom that treats her own child this way makes me sick. One day, when you are old enough, bring all this back to her, she will feel cheap.
2007-02-05 05:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by ●♥ Mαmα ♥● 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't pay attention to her. She doesn't know what a great person I bet you are. If you've tried to make peace with her, good for you for trying, but she's probably not going to change. Either go to a relative or any trusted adult and tell them what's been going on. Tell them that you've tried being a good daughter to her but she always yells and puts you down. Cause if she's being verbally abusive you need to get some help or else it could form into something worse than yelling. I'm sorry!! Don't worry, you'll get through this hun!!
2007-02-05 03:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by eml033 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live.
Do your best in school, get a job as soon as you can and when you are able to leave do it as soon as possible.
If circumstances prevent you from doing this get a lawyer and seek emancipation due to emotional abuse. You will either have to live with a relative or become a ward of the state.
Once you are away from home and successful you will have proven yourself better than her.
You're already headed that way just by bringing up the subject.
All God's children are beautiful they just express it in different ways.
2007-02-05 03:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by sprydle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you can to find the support you need. Talk to a school counselor, a teacher or a friends Mother. You need emotional support that you aren't getting from your Mom. Once you find the love and support you need, do what you have to do to get through school and move on without her. You have it in you to prove to her that you are worthy of life just as she or anyone else is! Keep your Chin up! You ARE loved and cared for! Good Luck! =)
2007-02-05 03:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your dad in the picture? Do you have aunts or uncles you trust? You need to talk to someone, even if it's just a school counselor, and tell them what's going on. It sounds like a very unhealthy situation to live in. It sounds like your mom has major internal issues that have nothing to do with you. I'm sure you're very pretty and smart. Hang in there.
2007-02-05 03:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Katiecat 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that you are very pretty and smart. Try to talk to another family member your dad, or an aunt. Explain what is going on. I am sure your mother has some serious issues of her own and it's wrong to make you think that you should not have a fair chance at life. I wish you luck.
2007-02-05 03:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by ooh2sweet2b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is verbal abuse. If you are a minor, call Child Protective Services. Your mother is damaging your spirit. Talk to a counselor at school and your father. This has to stop.
By the way, I don't know you but you are beautiful. Carry yourself proudly and feel like you are a princess because you are.
2007-02-05 03:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your household is really that volatile then you need to find some help. Speak to a teacher, counselor or a friend's mom that you trust. Your mom is being very abusive and you don't deserve that. Once you get someone who can help you, things will get better.
Take care.
2007-02-05 03:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋