I sort of fear the rejection. I picked up 2 girls last year. When I asked their telephone number, they were all happy to say they will go out and have a cup of coffee with me. However, the second time I called them. They all changed their decision and hung up the phone. I surprisingly met my high school friend. She was happy to see me on the street and said she will definitely go out to have a cup of coffee with me. I called her a few time and sent a few emails. She replied my emails twice, but no more. We made an appointment. I went to the coffee shop, but she didn't attend. I called her, but no answer. Then, I called a number of times, but she hung up my calls. What were the problems? Ladies could you tell me. I am not the rapist. I am afraid to call her now. How can I overcome this fear?
2007-02-05 02:53:42 · 3 answers · asked by safafs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you go overcome this fear by go throw it because to get overcome of something you need to test it many times then it will be as a normal thing for you . also rejection must be some how in this life .
2007-02-05 03:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mysterious_Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fear of rejection is embedded in every human being. Some of us have more of a "surfacing" of this fear, because we have had an experience in rejection, which makes us fear it happening again. If you've touched a hot stove and gotten burned, you have more of an awareness of never being burned again, because you know how much it hurts.
In order to over-come rejection and the fear of it you need to remind yourself of a few things. #1 it happens to everyone #2 in order for anything to happen you must take the initial plunge. Something good may come of it something bad may as well, but at least you'll know.
I generally have a 3 to 1 contact rule. If I contact someone three times via any form of communication, and they do not respond to me, I stop until they do. If someone is interested in speaking with you it will not take more than three tries to get a hold of them without them contacting you back. Set goals for yourself, put yourself out there, know rejection will happen. When you get bucked off the horse get back on. I'm sure you have a lot to offer someone.
2007-02-05 03:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by cooling1981 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u are coming off a lil pushy or seem to be controling, attitude is everything when u first meet. U don't want to be to strrong but not whimpy either. I can't speak for all females but If u seem egotistical or talk about how much u make sometimes it gets annoying. Sometimes a simple hi how are things going, get to know them first , not meet & ask to go out to soon they may think your a stalker or psycho. Be yourself but watch what u say bcuz even jokes may get out of line & some get offended but don't tell u. Maybe u should stick to yourself & Go to church & find who u want to be. never know u may find Ms Right & these other women are wrong. I met my husband at church , no we are not perfect , but we clicked . Sometimes maybe ur just looking in the wrong places & trying to hard. Don't lower ur self either to im press a person bcuz if they don't accept u for who u are they are wrong for u.
2007-02-05 03:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by pammybear1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a huge turn off when a guy is pushy to go out with you. They are probably turned off by how eager you were to go out with them. You want to play it cool. Dangle the bate and roll in the fish slowly if you know what I mean ;-)
2007-02-05 03:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by Atousa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋