my friend is 20 and he just started hooking up with a women thats 30... now i'm just wondering do you think its wrong or do you think this 10year gap really matters? could the age difference hurt or benifit there relationship?
serious answers only please....
2007-02-05 02:34:39 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also she has four kids from ages 4-14... and he has a three year old....
2007-02-05 02:37:51 · update #1
It can work, but it's not Mother Nature's way, not when a man is that young. Or rather, it is very much Mother Nature's way but not to the exclusion of younger women.
Remember that our hind brains are still programmed for survival of the species, and that means generally the younger a woman is, the more desirable she is. A man who devotes his life to an older woman has to think about whether monogamy is a good thing.
My Steve was 11 years younger than me, and I was already infertile (surgically) when I met him. We had over 20 good years together, but one of the big reasons he committed suicide last year was that he gave up on the idea that he'd ever have children. He looked for a younger woman, but said she'd have to show respect to me. And he was simply not able to find one who accepted the conditions -- or indeed ever got close enough to know I existed.
So if you fall in love with an older woman, do speak honestly with her about this dilemma, and work out what you feel is right to do about when she starts going through menopause and you're just reaching your stride.
2007-02-05 02:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 30 and my boyfriend is 41, we are together now for 6 years... and no problem. I have a friend who is 36 and his wife is 48, they have 3 little girls and they are happy. I also know people who have problems, with different ages or not. It matters if things are not fine. If it's wonder full...what should be the problem? Maybe some people will condemn that, but probably they will condemn many other things. I guess they are not hurting anybody, and the age difference could benefit or hurt, that is up to their relationship, don't you think?
2007-02-05 02:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, I guess it's none of our business and to each his own. The age gap doesn't bother me, but at age 20 has he finished college or gotten a trade to support himself for the rest of his life if they have something other than dating in mind. So far as dating, the 30 year can teach the young one all about the desires of an older woman. So if he wants to just date her, sure, why not. Just as long as he seeing to his responsibilities of becoming an independent, self-sufficient person.
2007-02-05 02:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a matter of understanding and maturity, if they both tend to get along quite well, I don't think there is any problem with 2 of them going out. Actually, the age difference between my parents is 12 and they have gotten along for 30+ years now so let them be.
2007-02-05 02:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a tax standpoint I can see where the CTC and EIC would eliminate any income taxes for them. Age is only a state of mind and their business is their business and nobody likes a butinski. We no longer pay much attention to the double standard. I get a charge out of it. Michael Douglas is about 67 and his 36 or 37 year old wife just had a baby and nobody even thinks there is an age difference. Ten years isn't even a blink of an eye in comparison.
2007-02-05 02:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not atall! Age doesnt mean anything! Course this could work out for them! Im like 7yrs older than my boyfriend and have been together for the last 9yrs and still just as happy as ever! Its a trust factor and this relation will definately be successful as long as they can talk to each other and trust each other.
2007-02-05 02:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It works in the beginning, but age catches up, than embarrassment, then aging appearance, and eventually regret.
The woman will always wonder, Is he faithful, because he is a lot younger and there is more opportunity for the younger generation.
But I'm finding more and more men are attractive to older woman, not only for their looks, but the maturity involved in the relationship!
2007-02-05 02:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't get caught up with numbers. The 20 yr old does need to grow up...But once he is fully mature and his brain stops growing, age should not bother anyone....My husband is 12 yrs. older than me....we met when I was 28 and we did not get married until I was 31. It is a wonderful marriage, and he is a great husband.
2007-02-05 02:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't think that the age of the person should make much of a difference as long there is a firm relaiotnship between you the and the person then there shoouldn't be be a problem
2007-02-05 02:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is mature (doubtful) I think it may work. It sounds like they both started having kids way too young. This may be a problem with all the kids involved and the dynamics of this relationship.
2007-02-05 02:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋