Here's the deal: I have a boyfriend whom I love very much. He is in Marine Basic Training, and won't be back until March. I also have a crush on 2 guys who are good friends with me and with each other.They are both cute, smart, and nice. And they both like me.
I write my boyfriend every week, so he knows I like the 2 guys, and that the 2 guys like me. They both know that the other likes me too, and that I like them, so there aren't any secrets really.
I feel really bad though. I am NOT going to cheat on my boyfriend while he is gone, but I can't help FEELING the way that I do about those 2 guys.
I'm afraid that I'm going to fall in love with the guys, or that they will fall in love with me. I love my boyfriend, but he is far from me now, and I see these guys everyday;so whether I want to or not, with these kinds of circumstances, it's only natural that my heart is going to get more attached to these guys....
I'm also afraid that the guys will lose their friendship over me.
HELP!
2007-02-05 02:28:15 · 11 answers · asked by Koneko 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be telling your boy stuff like that in letters, he must be so worried, especially him being away from home & not being around to sort it out.
There will always be other guys who will catch your eye and who you may find attractive and think about them, but that doesn't mean that you have to act upon those thoughts.
You say you love your boyfriend very much. That's your answer. Be flattered by all the attention, but make it clear your someone else's girl. If the two guys choose to end the friendship, then its their loss & they weren't worth it the first place.
You know, it only a few weeks left till March. If I were you, i'd be spending time thinking about all the fun I'll be havving with my marine when he gets home :)
2007-02-05 02:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
falling in love? are you not pity with your bf? he is facing loneliness and sacrifice at camp , you supposed not to write anything just to prove you are true to him ,probably in this case you gave him only worries inspite of your honesty, anyway, better to keep that feeling a secret to those guys otherwise, if that feelings reveal to those two guys you giving them the previlleage to court you,you say you love your bf, but he is far from you...does`nt matter how far as long as you love him ,what if your bf come back and the feeling you have for him is still love who lose at end it might be you,do you think he will trust you after all, eventhough he love you ,if your heart is weak,he has a ground to love another,besides, if your bf can sacrifice, why can`t you also. do not afraid to loose your crushes , the consequences at the end is loosing your love,then it would be another problem again, were not satisfy unless we don`t get what we want, if you really can`t make it alone solving your problem i sudgest stick to your bf,patiently wait to your bf, until he come back if the feeling is still the same good then, when you felt the love is gone then decide atleast no hurt feelings, then it is the right time to choose which of the two is the best for you anyway, they are just there with you you said it that they are your friends it`s not hard for you because they like you too.. this is only an advice, the decision is all up to you, you have a freedom to choose which is good for you
2007-02-05 12:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by prettybabies_12345 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing two years ago when my boyfriend went to basic training for the Army. It was so hard being away from him but trust me, once he gets back it's totally worth the wait. Right now, my boyfriend is down south (im in Ohio) for the military and I haven't saw him for about half a year. It's so hard but trust me, when you see him you're going to thank yourself that you waited. You might LIKE those other two guys but tell them that you only want to be friends! You love your boyfriend and taking a stab at a relationship just because there's someone there for you isn't worth losing the one you love. If they fall for you, be flattered, but DON'T take advantage of that situation. He'll be home soon, wait and cherish how much your love for him grew while he was gone. It's special, I promise.
2007-02-05 10:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is only a matter of trust. You see, it is really cheating if you continue that special feeling that you have for the other two guys. So as early as now, stop or rather, abstain yourself from anything or do not get too close to the two other guys because if you choose to get closer and closer to the two guys, you'll be extremely unfair to your beloved boyfriend. Your boyfriend surely did not want to be away from you for long so just keep yourself from such.. I think you're just missing your baby..
2007-02-05 10:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should break up with your bf. he is going to be a changed person when he comes back from the marines.. even if it is just training, they will brainwash him, and you might not know the person that returns. Do yourself, him and the other 2 guys a favor... Break up with your bf, go on a few dates with ONE of the 2 guys and see how things go. you might just be lonely and these two seem like they give you the attention you need. It will make your current bf feel worse knowing that he's not giving you what you need. please don't stress him out more then he already is.
2007-02-05 10:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by UNeverKnow 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK. Let's be honest. You ARE going to cheat on your bf while he is gone. Don't feel bad about it. Yall are just going off on separate paths. Unless you are engaged married or going to marry your bf then decide which of the other guys you like the most and go with him. The fact that your bf knows that you like two other guys and isn't upset should tell you something.
2007-02-05 10:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by Fletcher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
True love is not affected by the distance there is between you. That is what makes it true love. And if you love your boy friend as much as you say you do, how can you possibly think of someone else?
2007-02-05 10:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by a43cha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend will be a Marine!
Don't even go second or third best.
When you see him, when you talk to him, you will know that messing around with boys is not for you.
He is a MAN.
2007-02-05 10:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow what a problem...you shouldnt have a b/f at all....not if you cant make up your mind....stop playing the game and grow up...cute doesnt cut it in a relationship...they sure are smart if they can do this to you...i wouldnt say they are nice...you have a crush...well dont crush your b/f for the attention of others...
2007-02-05 10:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you Love your boyfriend the way you say you do then it shouldn't be an issue.
2007-02-05 10:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by Petra A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋