Am 22 and had quite a few relationships in my past. Well for some reason whenever i get with someone it kinda goes wrong n f**ks up for whatever reason.. So come to the conclustion am happy being single
Well for the past mounth when ever i go out clubbing i always seem 2 get very very drunk an end up leaving with some random bloke..
Am safe and use controception, but iv never been like this before in my life and am just woundering why am randomly doin this..
Am not lookin for anything more than just the f**k and i no it sounds slaggish but i cant help doin it..
My friend is gettin worryed about me and i dont seem 2 see what the problem is.. Its just a bit of fun
2007-02-05 02:26:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its just a phase you are going through..you will stop soon...just watch who you leave with they could be anybody.
2007-02-08 20:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, you have had quite a few relationships in the past which always turn out wrong so now you are just taking what you want from these guys (the sex) without having to worry about all the rubbish that comes with a relationship.
There is nothing wrong with this as long as no one is getting hurt and you are being careful then do what you want.
Its your life, not your friends, so if this is what you want to do then be smart about it and live your life the way you want to.
xxx
2007-02-05 03:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh wow i have the exact same problem and was just thinking how to phrase the question!!How strange!!I do the same!!I just cant help it!I dont no why i do it and i no everyone who nos must think what a slag i am but as you said,its only a bit of fun!!But yes its hard to stop when you do get into a relationship because it sort of becomes a habbit i sopose!!I just cant controll myself!!The only way would be if i stopped going out and getting drunk i sopose!But i love going out so will just have to try and learn a bit more self controll!But i am sooooo glad im not the only one doing this!!!! x
2007-02-05 03:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Lisa
I am a guy so not sure if that qualifies, but your experience is the same as most people of both sexes.
Relationships are very often hard work & take a lot of comitment with sometimes little reward
As long as you are in control of yourself I would say that your actions are a bit of enjoyment to let off steam, but in your case you say you are getting so drunk, so how can you be in control of your actions or contraception or anything? odds are that unless you be a little more carful you could meet with all sorts of problems, remember that there are a lot of sick weirdo's out there.... don't join them
Listen to your friend she cares about you more than these guys do
2007-02-08 03:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by healer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its a self esteem issue you have perhaps? Does leaving with a guy and sleeping with him make you feel empowered and risque??
Its good that you are using protection - but thats not going to stop you getting a reputation which is probably why your friend is concerned about you.
Also - contraception isnt always 100% safe - so whilst you now see it as a bit of fun - it may not end that way
xx
2007-02-05 02:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah done some silly things like that myself, not many times though about 2 or 3 but was very very concerned so have stopped drinking that way I am more in control of the situation
Just be careful and safe but it is your life and as long as you are happy doing what you are doing who are we (Or your friend) to judge
2007-02-05 02:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not all girls but some may..its good that ur using protection .. there's nothing wrong with sleeping around.. guys do it all the time.. the only difference girls get labeled "sluts" for enjoying themselves :P Anyways if ur friends worried maybe u should listen to ur friend and u say uv recently started this maybe it was triggered by some event in ur life u may want to take that under consideration..
2007-02-05 02:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by Nefer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this clearly shows you aint happy being single and need someone, maybe your past relationships failed because you failed to choose the right bloke. and you aint going to find the right one by sleeping with random guys and drinking heavy, your just scaring the decent guys away. and when you go out wouldnt you rather have a good time and have a laugh with your mates and remember it all, rather then to just getting drunk leave with a guy for sex who you dont even know?
stop the heavy drinking and start living, that way your keeping yourself healthy and you never know, you might just meet the perfect guy.
good luck
2007-02-05 03:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Marv 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh babe! Your real worry is that you have very low esteem and you got yourself into a rut - and the way ur behaving is like this what you deserve when in fact its not. Stop the going out and depending on drink and a shag to make you feel good - and start working on that confidence have a laugh with your mate - u'll see the guys flooding in, and you'll be able to choose with a sober mind x
2007-02-05 02:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by kel_mccoy_uk555 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ha-ha Like the fact a person calling themselves Champagne is advising less drink!!
Seriously though she is right try and have an alcohol drink then a coke or somethink - it'll do your liver the world of good too!!
2007-02-05 02:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by Soul Reason 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through the exact same thing at the same age
I eventually got bored of it and stopped.
I now have a committed and enjoyable relationship.
Try not to be too concerned about your current behaviour, remain safe and be pleased that you have friends that care about you.
2007-02-08 04:09:33 · answer #11 · answered by Jugular 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋