How do I tell my parents..?

Question

I'm 14 years old, and I think I'm bisexual.

I'm scared to tell my parents because they wouldn't understand... they've always been against same-sex relationships. And knowing them they'd probably think I have mental issues and send me to a psychologist. >_>;

So... should I wait until I'm sure that I like girls before telling them?
And HOW should I tell them? D= I'm torn... help meh.

Thankyew. <3

Ohhh... you people don't know how much I love you~ just for taking time to answer my question.
It's going to be very tough for me to choose a best answer... heh.
I'm pretty happy with the answers I got... thank you and thank you, for the nice advice! <3

Answer 1

Ok sweetie, my friend had a problem like this. When he came out to his mom she had become distant and wouldn't talk to him. Then she was nice to him. It broke my heart to see his mom like that. But I think you should wait till you know for sure that you like girls like that. You could be this way because you want to try something new. You want to see how everything is. But I would wait and once you notice that its final tell them. It's going to brake their hearts trust me and they will try anything for you to change your mind but don't. If they don't accept you for who you are you shouldn't have to deal with them. You can find someone to stay with for a while and make sure its with family that will accept you. Because you would have to prepare for a lot of things to happen.

Answer 2

Well i have alot of friends that are lesbian, bisexual or what ever. First thing is that you should know if thats what you really want and who you really are, because this is a very big step if you were to tell them, and then later on it was just fling. In that type of lifestyle people have lost there friends, family, and god knows what else. some people are willing to step up for who they are and some are not. if you feel this would take a dramatic tole on your life dont tell them, atleast wait until you have your own apartment, and own life, because some parents have cut there children off just for being that way, it all depends on your family.

Answer 3

Kitteh-I marked this question as interesting and I don't think I know what's right for you. Hopefully, some of the gay/lesbian/bisexual answerers can help. My inclination is that I would NOT tell your parents yet. Since you're not sure, why tell them until you know yourself? I also think they may take you to a psychologist or counselor and I think that's inappropriate, also, until you're more settled in your own feelings. Answer this question--is there any benefit to telling them now? Take a piece of paper and draw two columns. In one column, list the benefits in telling them now. In the other column, list the detriments to telling them now. See which column prevails. I convinced of a couple of things in this situation. Ultimately, hiding your feelings is unhealthy. People who truly love you will accept you for who you are. So, figure out who you are first and then tell your parents and friends. Do not act too fast, however. "To thine own self be true."

Answer 4

You should wait. You're just 14 and said you "think" you are bisexual. I went through this around your age. I realized I wasn't. I liked guys not girls. Right now you are figuring out who you are, you are not a child anymore and not an adult either. Don't rush into anything. While I could appreciate beauty, such as a pretty girl, they did not excite me.

Answer 5

I think it all depend on who attracts you more, men or women. Actually, statistics show that 85% of people between that ages 13-20 question if they might be gay or bi-sexual but later know that they aren't. I'd say wait until you're strongly attracted to a female to tell your parents. Until then, don't worry about it.

Answer 6

because of your young age, your parents most likely won't take you seriously with matters of your sexuality. they'll probably think that it's some teenage phase, or like you said, send you to a psychologist and try to "fix" you. it would be best for you to explore your sexuality on your own, and figure things out on your own terms before getting everyone else's opinions involved. and once you figure out who you are, then you will be able to hold your head high and tell the world "this is me, this is who i am". don't rush yourself on this, you'll figure it out when you are ready. best of luck to you!

Answer 7

Wait. Kids go through periods of being uncertain about their sexuality. Chances are you are either gay or straight, no bi. There are very few people who are really bi. Give yourself until you are 18 to figure it out.

Answer 8

A) wait until you are sure
b) 14 is too young to worry about it
c) why tell them?

Answer 9

Really, 14 is too young to be sexual...let alone bi-sexual. Please give yourself a chance to mature before you decide about something as important as becoming sexually active. Also, you'll KNOW if you are straight, gay, or bi. You can choose to experiment, but you can't choose your sexuality.

Answer 10

Your not Bi-sexual, you are probably just thinking about gay people too much or something or it's just a phase. If I were you I would go out with a guy and then you will forget that your bi-sexual,