Been seeing someone for a year and a half that I love very much. Says he loves me too. His daughter started having problems in school and now he says he may have to go back to his ex wife to make his daughter "better". Says that is the only reason and I do believe him. Now a good friend that I care deeply for has come back into my life and wants to rekindle something that had begun around the time that I met the other person. I hurt this person very much when I chose to pursue my life with the other one, who now has me feeling insecure. Love them both, the first one beyond words and the other not so intensely but as a great and true friend with some romantic feelings too. Do I stay with my heart or move on? Really want to hear your honest and serious thoughts.
2007-02-05 02:20:00 · 7 answers · asked by kayaress 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One thing to consider is the fact that this mans child will always come before you. It sounds like he has a lot of guilt about the divorce and the problems it has caused for his daughter. If he is talking about going back to his ex then I'd say you should also move on with your life. I'm not so sure it's a good idea to jump from one relationship into another though. You may need some time to yourself to really think about what it is you want out of a relationship before jumping back into one because this person has come back into your life. Just think about things before you act on any decision. I wish you well.
2007-02-05 02:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question to answer, because i would go with my heart, and try to make it work out. A question for you is if he goes to his wife are they getting back together or he just living with her for the daughters sake? But I always tend to go with my heart and if its not my heart then i cant settle for less because im always going to be wondering about the other guy, and i would feel like the other guy is just a wing man even though you have some feelings but its not as strong as the other guy. but all in all do what makes you HAPPY
2007-02-05 10:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by lefteye w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't expect his daughter to do what's right for you. When you go into a relationship like this, you have to take everything that comes with it. Your focus should be with the guy ONLY. He has to do what's best for his daughter. Put yourself in her place and think about what you'd want your father to do. Would you respect your "boyfriend" if he abandoned he daughter for a piece of tail? I know that last line sounds mean, but that's how it will seem to her.
2007-02-05 10:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth I don't believe a guy should go back to his ex wife because his daughter is having problems in school. He should be smart and just tell her that she will have to live with it and grow up. That is so childess. I'm sorry I grew up with it. I realized that my mom can't be with my father because they don't love each other. But anyways, if the other guy is willing to give you a chance go right ahead and go with him. Give him a chance. You might not regret it at all.
2007-02-05 10:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by Petra A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like you should be with the one that has no attachment to an ex and a daughter. You deserve someone that can be there for you and not waste your precious time the the family man
2007-02-05 10:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your heart.
2007-02-05 10:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Niceguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biy, he must have been too hard on you last night.
2007-02-05 10:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋