My boyfriend of two years promised me that he wouldn't look at porn, and then he did anyway. I wouldn't have a problem with him masterbating to pornographic pictures of me-- I'd even take pictures/ have pictures taken of myself for him. I just don't like him looking at pictures of other women. I want to be enough for him. Is this crazy of me?
2007-02-05 02:17:52 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel the same way about my husband wanting to look at porn. I feel like I'm not as good as them because they look so... well hot I guess. I even asked him if he liked the way they loook, and he said "most men like big brest"...and that ment yes -.- he dosn't want me to look like them thou? I can't understand that, but I'm gonna try anyways... I'm kinda skinny, so I'm thinking of brest inplants... my face is really beautiful, so no worries there. I jus hate the thou of him getting so upset of me even hanging out with one of my guy friends (not alone thou), when he looks at hookers nude! ><
sorry... back to the question... I don 't think your crazy, and alot of people on this site will tell you it is his right to do it or other BS like that... wish I could help, but the best I could do is... since he broke your promise, I'd dump him.
2007-02-05 02:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
attempt watching porn with him to make certain only what that is he's were given happening and see if he's raring to comprise you or no matter if that is a few thing he prefers to do on his personal. once you've carried out this you'd be in a a lot more suitable position to barter the parameters of your courting with him. i'm assuming that you and your boyfriend are youthful. maximum men advance out of porn as they mature. i'm also assuming that what bothers you extra is the actual incontrovertible truth that he promised no longer to and went ahead and did it besides.
2016-11-25 03:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a man's point of view, yeah, you are asking alot. some guys just like looking at porn. it probably has nothing to do with how he feels about you. don't take it personally. i know girls who go shopping with absolutely no intention of buying anything. if you buy a dress, does that mean you will never look at another dress? i'm sure that sounds like a cheesy explanation, but it's the best i can do. many many guys have gone through this with thier gf's and most of us really don't understand why it's a problem. dang this brings back bad memories, now i'm getting a headache :)
2007-02-05 02:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by handsinpants2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not crazy of you, but you should probably think about some things:
1) Men naturally want to have sex with every woman they see
2) This natural desire has nothing to do with love and is something akin to your desire to look at a clothing catalog--I'm not kidding
3) Forcing a man to deny this desire is too controlling and shows a lack of understanding of him
4) A man who suppresses his desires will likely resent that he has to do it. He might "explode" or cheat because of it
5) A man who looks at pornography may even have heightened sexual desire for his partner. He wants to do what he sees in the porn.
I can probably think of some other points but the bottom line is that your man IS NOT A LOUSE for looking at porn. It is a natural desire and it really won't hurt anything. I think you should tell him to try to not look at so much porn and to not look at it when you're around. Alternatively, look at the porn with him! I think you need to change your attitude about this, one way or another.
Finally, any guy that says he doesn't look at porn, doesn't like porn, or isn't allowed to look at porn is sad/repressing feelings/not a real free man. Don't make your man into a sad sap.
2007-02-05 10:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by Joey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. All men look at porn. It is a multi-billion dollar industry so even if you provided pornographic pictures of yourself he will still look at porn. If you break up with him and find another b/f he will look at porn. All men do it. That's a fact of life. Get used to it.
2007-02-05 02:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your boyfriend have pictures of you that you would not want to be used in the future to hurt you., this is NOT a good idea. It is not crazy of you wanting to be enough for him and I would be upset also. Since you already have let him know how it upsets you and he continues to do this, then my concern would be more on how he disregards how you feel. Is this an indication of how your feelings will be treated in the future. I would question this seriously. Best to you!
2007-02-05 02:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not crazy but maybe unrealistic. A guy can love you and only you and be extremely attracted to you but still have the urge to look at random naked women. Struggled with this myself for years. Now I understand it more. Think it only gets worse if you tell them not to. This may sound crazy but maybe you should watch a movie with him. It may help you to adjust to it more and see that it is not the way you think it is. Guarantee he will be more interested in touching you than watching the movie.
2007-02-05 02:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by kayaress 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men will be men. You cannot stop him from looking at porn so don't even try. Perhaps you all should watch some together and he wouldn't have to fantasize and go solo. Be adventurous. Guys do not like predictability or redundancy. They BORE easily.
2007-02-05 02:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pornography Addiction
Did you know...
...that pornography consumption can be as mood altering and as addictive as narcotics? (Richard Drake, assistant professor at Brigham Young University College of Nursing) In fact, some studies have indicated that pornography can have the same effect on the brain as cocaine. Images can be permanently "burned" into the memory by epinephrine, a chemical in the brain.
Read on...
http://www.firesofdarkness.com/pornography_addiction.htm
2007-02-05 02:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by cheyenneman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when a guy likes porn a little to much, its a turn off! Dont give him pictures of you all.....yeah u get it
2007-02-05 02:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by jordan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋