A friend of mine and I were talking yesterday about relationships. She was saying how it is better to stay with a man even if he isn't any good rather then to be alone. I don't understand this way of thinking. What is wrong with being single and alone? There is a huge difference in being alone and being lonley. She told me that her mother who is 65 years old, was in a relationship with a man who cheated on her, and took all of her money. She broke up with this man, but regrets that she did because "at least he was better then nothing".
She told me that because I am thin and young and still have my whole life ahead of me I wouldn't be able to understand this.
Can someone please explain to me why someone would rather be with a looser no good man then to be by themselves??
2007-02-05 02:08:05 · 8 answers · asked by joyce 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, i dont know how old you are, but it seems like you have more sense than who ever told you that. Ive been single for 3 yrs, while all my friends rather be with someone who they are not happy with etc etc, which is stupid. But you also have to understand some people cant be alone no matter what? but thats on them if they feel that way, i know me personally i rather be single for a life time then to be with someone who doesnt make me happy, and in the process sad, i could do bad all by myself
2007-02-05 02:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by lefteye w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well my ex and I broke up in November after she cheated on me while away at school. Now she was my first serious gf and I have always been a guy who really wanted a relationship instead of "playing the field".
But from this I have learned that while I still hate being single and would like to be with someone, I would definitely prefer being single then being with someone who didn't appreciate me and treated me unfairly.
Your friend sounds like me when we first broke up in that I felt I wasn't going to get anyone else but she needs to realize (and you need to help her do it) that while being single can suck, a lot more pain can result from being with someone who doesn't appreciate, love, and care for you.
2007-02-05 02:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by CJ B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds crazy to me, but some people have a fear of being alone, or of dying alone, or maybe have no confidence in themselves to face life alone. Maybe your friend is so used to depending on others, that she fears what life may be like having to depend on just herself.
2007-02-05 02:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is desperate to escape loneliness. She'll take whatever she can get. She's too scared at the prospect of making it on her own, and has no idea how rewarding singlehood can be. There's nothing wrong with it at all. (She reminds me of Charlotte from Pride and Prejudice, if you've ever read that.)
2007-02-05 02:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you don't need a man who is no good you are better off single and their is nothing wrong with being single.xx
2007-02-05 02:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have low self-esteem. And they place other people above their own wants, needs, etc. They have a fear of being alone maybe. People have different reasons for different beliefs. Maybe its what they grew up with.
2007-02-05 02:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by cArTeR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people just dont want to be alone so they settle. they need some kind of attention not matter where they get it from. i tell people all the time to love yourself first...then look for some one who will compliment you. after all if you dont like yourself how can you expect other to like you.
2007-02-05 02:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity, dependency, stupidity, laziness. Not that all apply but in most cases ...
2007-02-05 02:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jim R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋