hey my gf finished with me nearly 4 weeks ago cos of an argument at work. she was with me for 7 weeks and got with me after spliiting with her ex who she was with 4 years. Whenever i ask my gf would she take me back she says she doesnt know but she likes me, fancies, and has goot feelings for me but can only give friendship. i dont know what to do help ? can i get her back ?? i gave my gf alot of attention buying her expensive gifts, flowers, perfumes, going to pictures and txting and rinigng her quite a bit. Ive decided not to txt her for while and give her some space, do you think she would miss me or think about me ? n is der ne chance of me getting her back ?? Plus i havent txt her today so when should i next txt her if she doesnt txt me ? i treated her like a princess do you think she would miss me ??? do you think she needs a bit more space and time to get over her ex, and maybe i was too full on ? she says she can only give me friendship for now, do u fink she wud miss me
2007-02-05 02:07:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go for it if u love him.
2007-02-05 02:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by Baby girl 101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you really need to take a step back here. She is definately not ready for the level of attention and affection you are showering her with. She's obviosuly in a very unsure place right now, so soon after teh break up of a very long relationship.
She was being very honest with you when she said that she could only offer you friendship. Many others might have strung you along and taken advantage of your generosity.
I think the best thing you can do is give this woman space. In time, she may come back to you, but that needs to be her desision, and its not a decision you should pressurise her into making. I think your attention and generosity might put unfair pressure oh her to make descisions.
Remember that no amount of gifts or attention can make someone have feelings they do not have. You sound like a very nice man and i'm sure other people reading your Q are probably wishing their guy was so attentive, but in this case I think you must accpet that this woman is not the woman for you.
So as not to put her under more pressure, I suggest texting her once more, explaining that you accept that she is not ready for a new relationship and that you are willing to give her space. Wish her luck and then don't make any further contact with her. If she wants to, she may contact you someday, but in the meantime, get out there and find some other lucky woman to share your time with.
2007-02-05 02:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels suffocated with all your expensive gifts and affection?
Give her some breathing space. Be there for her as a friend, someone who will listen to her troubles, worries and opinions.
I personally like someone to listen to me rather than buy buy buy buy me gifts that I really don't need (and it clutters up the place).
Try not to get in her face too much as it may put her off. Be cool.
You sound like a wonderful caring young man... but maybe a little impatient? :-)
On the other hand... try and sit down with her, talk through what had happened (sensibly) because it may be other small things over a course of time which have slowly manifested into that argument at work few weeks back?
All the best with your ex. Remember, take it easy and slow....
2007-02-08 22:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by _ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gave her TOO much attention girls dont want constant attention 24 hours a day it gets suffocating sorry to say this but true .....if she feels like you are loving her at max level and she only feels 1 or 2 it will highlight the distance ....learn to be relaxed and show slightly less attention and just enjoy being with her instead of .....worrying about have i done this right or should i do this .......................be yrself and have fun ......if you treat her as the last female on the planet she will run a mile ...............
2007-02-05 02:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if all she can offer you just now is friendship then you`ve got to ask yourself if you can settle for that just now,if not then you have to move on.
Maybe she just needs time to sorther feelings out,4 years is a long time to be with someone and if she then went straight into a relationship with you then maybe she needs time alone for now.
maybe she will change her mind about you but don`t wait about forever.if you are meant to be together then i believe you will be.
2007-02-05 02:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by onlyme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep giving her space, but she needs to know you are not pining after her and that you would immediately take her back. It is up to her now if she will come back, there is not much you can do.
2007-02-05 02:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres an idea- why don't you wait and see if she contacts you. If she does then you will know she has missed you. If not then it wasn't meant to be. Sorry this is the best advice i can give!
2007-02-05 02:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-19 23:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it mate lets face you have nothing to lose give it your best shot mate
2007-02-05 02:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by dream theatre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her and move on.
2007-02-05 02:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋