i have a girl friend who has a very harassing exBF. this guy sends cell messages to her every day. no actually every 30 mins. the problem is that these messages are very sweet if you look at only one of them. he also calls her current friends, BF or not, to harass them - of course does from the dark.
she is very upset but does not know how to deal with it. And she no longer has love for this guy and just wants to get him off her back (and of course her cell phone too).
Suggestions?
2007-02-05 02:05:44 · 17 answers · asked by kgfzgao 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy could potentially be dangerous. Ok, if she is young she should definitely talk with her parents/teachers and anyone else she trust and feels a safe haven with. If he is stalking her there are several things she needs to remember.
She should always be familar with her surroundings when in public or otherwise. Be alert to the people around her especially at night. Keep her car and home secure at all times. If she feels her life is in any danger go talk with the police. If he has a key to her home she needs to change the locks. She should not ever be alone with him because of his obsessive behavior. People like this are unpredictable.
2007-02-05 02:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by aubrie27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always the dumped party suffer the most. And in order to heal the hurt and pain they naturally lash back. By doing so they actually healing themselves. That will go on from 2 to 6 months. Sometimes longer, but not in the form of annoyance but in denial. After this period the dumped one will be healed and the dumper will be vulnerable and feel guilt and even miss the dumped very much. Theres no certain tacticts to prevent that except the best advise would be to ignore and not to confront the harasser in any kind of way...want to hear more please contact David at dhrtmn@yahoo.com
2007-02-05 02:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by david 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She didn't harass me, she harassed him. I told him to do what he had to do and get rid of the nuissance because I'm not gonna put up with it. He did and even though it took a while for her to register the fact that he didn't want her, it stopped. Honestly, you shouldn't have to deal with her. Ask him to put her in her place.She's his "past" problem and he shouldn't allow her to even go there. And how the hell does she know it's not his baby? Does she have some kind of a supernatural Paternity Test quality that you don't know of? What an idiot. The harassment will only stop if your boyfriend wants it to. End of story.
2016-05-24 18:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your girlfriend change her cell phone number. She cannot control who he calls, so if he calls her girlfriends just have her ask her girlfriends not to provide any information about her. He is probably going through the pangs of a broken heart and so finding it hard to let go. Does not sound too much like a threatening situation, so hopefully her changing her number should help. Best of luck to you both!
2007-02-05 02:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every 30 mins? sounds like he got some insecurity issues or rather cannot get over her and is being too hopeful and overdo things. tell her to talk to him face to face and tell him plain squarely that she no longer likes him. in fact she feels stalked. change hp number and ask her friends not to give the new one. if all fails get a restraining order if it turns physical. btw ignore his sms so taht he is not encouraged that she keeps replying and he thinks he got a chance
2007-02-05 02:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by littlepurplebugz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might have to just change her cell phone number.
She might be able to block his number from calling her too.
Get a restraining order.
2007-02-05 02:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by Work is for Busters 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she should call her cell phone company and block his number. if he does anything else like fine her house or something, then put a restraining order on him. thats the only way to get rid of him and thank GOD that she and him are over and found you.
2007-02-05 02:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
File a report with the police! Change your number!
2007-02-05 02:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Tricee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am entering those new stages.
Tell her to get rid of his #. Change her cell - ask him to stop calling her friends and for her friends to stop answering. He will get it sometime.
Maybe you need to go have a good talk with him. Ask him what is he trying to do? She is with someone - you right now.
2007-02-05 02:09:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police for stalking. Call the telephone company and get his account disconnected. Call his parents (if he is still at home).
2007-02-05 02:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋