what's this feeling?what do i do?

Question

iam a second child of four siblings, and i have a mother who is sort of a busy woman. during my school years, she never showed up for any of my schooling activities, pta meeting and all that.i never said anything, cause i felt that was alright with me, but when my youngest sis went to the school, she went there practically every weekend, said she's the last kid who went to school, (i already finished school at that time). yet i didnt say anything, cause that kid is my sis and i am a big sis, jealousy is a no-no for me.i started to feel 'funny' when i saw my ma loves to hug my 2 youngest sisters, and never me. but still i didnt want to think negative.few months ago, my younger sis caught fever while she was sitting for her college exam, and ma called twice a day to check on her.now im having a terrible fever, threw up twice today,she never ring me once.my pa did.i am 23, is it normal 2 be sad, or im 2 old to feel sad over this? feel so alone.(my ma claimed she loves her kids equally).

Answer 1

I understand how you feel. I was the oldest of 3 siblings and the same kind of thing seems to be happening. A lot of it has to do with the fact that once those youngest ones grow up, that's it. It's not that she loves them more, she is just beginning to realize how fast you grow up. She sees that you are grown and probably don't need her as much as the younger ones do. Once I moved out, my mom rarely calls me, but spends every day with my younger sisters because they still live with her, so I kinda have a hint of jealousy towards them, but this made me and will make you stronger. I'm sure your mother loves you just as much as the rest of your siblings. If this didn't help, you might want to talk to her about it. I talked with mine and it made me feel soooo much better. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

you know what? I am like you.. but i the eldest of three siblings. 20 yrs old but still i manage to understand what my parents are doing i may be almost forgotten but still i know that my parent still have the care and love for me even though it is little or sometimes not even felt i still don't want to feel bad about it. (RJ/M/20/phiilppines)

GOD never gives you any challenge that he knows that you cannot face, but it is up to you on how long you will endure all the trials that he has given to you.

just a friendly reminder do not do anything bad o.k. you are old enough to think what is right and wrong. If you have any problem just e-mail me o.k. [e-mail]

Answer 3

Feelings are neither right nor wrong; they just are. What we do about these feelings is how we choose to live life.

Since you have these feelings I would suggest that you look for someone with whom you can talk them out. A priest, a therapist, or just a good confidant/friend. Once you get a handle on why you feel the way you do, then you can address these issues with your mother.


Good luck.

Answer 4

i would confront your mother.
i have a daughter and to be honest i don't have a great relationship with her, she is only 4 - so i know what a lot of you are thinking. i didn't bond well with her as a baby, i had post natal depression, and when she was 7months old my own mother died suddenly, leading to Major depression. i think that by the time i recovered, it was to a degree to late. i love my daughter unconditionally, she is my little angel, but i don't have the same closeness as i do with my son. i do feel incredibly guilty about this.
do either of your older sisters feel the same, I'd talk with them, it may be the same with them. we all perceive affection differently. my dad is always phoning my little sister but i only speak with him every 2 weeks or so. i know he loves me just the same, we just have a different relationship.
i would defiantly talk with your mother, you shouldn't have to feel like you are alone.... because you aren't...