I just realized yesterday how, I guess "hung up" is the term, on my ex boyfriend I am. I've never felt about anyone the way I did about him, it was amazing. But we just kind of fizzled out. since that (we broke up in JUNE!), I haven't been able to find myself attracted to ANY guy. There's a few decent guys who like me now, who last year I would happily have dated, but now, they don't even phase me. I don't miss my ex in the least, just the way he made me feel. I really like this guy named "mike", and realllllllyyyy want to be able to date and have fun again, but nothing moves me anymore.
It's like that line from Taking back sunday, "why cant I feel anything from anyone other then you?"
ugh. anyone understand? how did you move on?
2007-02-05 01:54:12 · 8 answers · asked by KLD it. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Chkas...(or whatever):
I guess you want more background information? He was my BEST FRIEND. absolutley. we dated pretty much online for 3 months cause we were both at different schools, and then we came home and were togethereveryday for 3 months. I loved him immensly, and guess what, we never had sex, we fooled around, but I'm not some bimbo who would fall for that.
You didnt even read the question, I don't want to be with him again. That relationship fizzled out quickly. but I can't even find someone that I'm mildly even curious about. It's like nobody compares to this kid. I hate ittttttt.
My brain is totally moved on, butmy heart just doesnt want to do the work.
jeeze.
2007-02-05 02:02:30 · update #1
I'm 20 btw.
2007-02-05 02:03:09 · update #2
I have been there,,,,and was single for 17 years after my wife left me. Iwasn't interested in relationships anymore and was content on living the rest of my life alone. What I found out was,,,,I needed that time, for me, to learn who I was and to get over my thinking that I needed someone in my life at all times. I got to the point that I actually enjoyed being alone most of the time. It was when I stopped looking for someone,,,that that special someone walked into my life,,and I knew we would be together,,,as did she. We have been happily married ever since.
Your mind is telling you now,,it is to soon to jump into another relationship. Heal first,,and get to know who you are without having someone else glued to your side. Learn to like YOU!
And when you least expect it,,,someone will walk into your life as well! But don't go seeking them out,,as you won't find them!
2007-02-05 02:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by shaprice1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're comparing every new guy to this one old one. Of course no one can compare, you've made him the perfect person in your mind. How can us "flawed" people even hope to measure up to perfect.
Ask yourself this: if he was so wonderful, why did the relationship fizzle?
Give yourself time; when the right guy comes along you'll know it.
2007-02-05 02:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand u girlfreind....but he is gone and as u said u dont miss him but u aint over him....try to get over him first before u start dating....dont do stuff that remind u of him...also dont be comparing these other guys to him.u dont realise it but that what u are doin ...u feel they are not as good as him and they dont touch u like he did....dont try to forget the way he made you feel but rather accept it and move on.dont be expecting these new guys to do the same things he used to do....loosen urself up and try new things.....this mike guy....give him a try...let go and see what happens...and also...try guys that are totally differnt from your ex.....so go out to places where u would have never thought of dating those kind of guys there and u might be surprised they will intrigue u in a difefrent way....good luck
2007-02-05 02:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by lovesexy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya girl we all go throw that but we have to move on or we are nothing. It took my sister 4 years to move on. Now she has 3 kids. And one to the boy she could not move on with.
2007-02-05 02:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by Baby girl 101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He found you, felt you up and F'ed you and now he's gone. What is it that you're so hung up on? I bet he could come back tomorrow, do the same thing and leave you again and you'd still come back here crying over this guy. Woman Up, dammit. Girls like you make it easy for players to play their games.
2007-02-05 01:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After enough time passed I just fell for someone else. You never forget but eventually you move forward and live again.
It was about two years for me.
Hang in there.
2007-02-05 02:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by Doug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL I CAN SAY, IS THAT TIME IS YOUR ONLY FRIEND RIGHT NOW. ONLY TIME CAN HELP YOU SLOWLY DECREASE WHAT YOU FEEL.. BUT IT IS REALLY UP TO YOU ALSO TO TRY TO CONTROL YOUR MENTAL STATE. MEANING, YOU NEED TO STOP THINKING ABOUT WHAT HE DID FOR YOU , AND STOP COMPARING OTHERS TO HIM. ENJOY YOUR LIFE, GIVE OTHERS A CHANCE, EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT IN THEIR OWN LOVELY, INDIVISUAL WAY... DONT WASTE MORE TIME, GO OUT AND HAVE FUN, MAKES TIME GO BY FASTER.. THAT MEANS YOU'LL BE LAUGHING ABOUT HOW DORKY YOU WERE AFTERWARDS. ;)
2007-02-05 02:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by MOON13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound really young so i am guessing you are from all that stupid stuff you said. one guy, one time, and i am ruined for life of poor me.
get out and get going, life throws all kinds of stuff at you and you must learn to duck or get hit. start to date and get on with life, there is someone out there for you, get to looking.
2007-02-05 02:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋