Big Problem! I have no Idea how my fiance and I are going to get married! I am a Christian and he is Athiest. I have never pushed my religion on to him and would never want to, but ever since I was a little girl with a teatowel on my head I've dreamed of the big White Church wedding! He has very kindly said that we can get married in my church, but my main problem with this is the wording of the religious ceremony! I don't think he should have to say thoses things if he doesn't believe them!
Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
2007-02-05 01:52:19 · 13 answers · asked by fairyprincesscorinne 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Obviously your fiance wants you to have the wedding of your dreams-- accept his offer and don't worry!
Congratulations and may God bless your union with many healthy happy years!
2007-02-05 02:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by bandit 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had 3 months to plan a wedding. I am a non practicing Catholic and my husband is a non practicing something else. We didn't want a church wedding. It was on Thanksgiving day so finding a place with all those factors involved was dificult. I had a friend find a place for me. It ended up being a Babtist church. All we needed to do was donate some cash to the church and voila, we had our venue. The preacher even offered to marry us, but we didn't want a religious ceremony. I had a friend of mine, she is a notary public, marry us. So it was the coolest thing. I walked down the isle and a female married us. If you are having your priest do it, ask him if he can use the notary public vows. It's almost the same thing except without the religious stuff in it. Hope it works out.
2007-02-05 02:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by zumi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would like to be real with you. When I saw this I felt it was my duty to tell you what the word of God say. You being a Christian should know that we are not to be yoked together with unbelievers 2 Cor. 6:14 What fellowship do righteousness have with unrighteousness. The devil is so subtle and he will do what ever he think he can do to get you out of the will of God. However, when you get married your husband is your spiritual authority and if he decide he don't want you in church, what will you do? The devil come to kill still and destroy. Also you are setting yourself up to fall when you marry out the will of God. Please I am being you re think that thing. I am not saying he is not your husband. I Hope you pray for God's guidance in this situation before you make a mistake you regret having made. Timing is always important. God gives us wisdom, I say wait until he give his life to Christ and you see him living according to the word then at the point I believe God will release you to marry that man. I don't believe he will release you and he don't believe in him. We don't serve a God like that. God desire the best for you and he will send you a man that will walk after his heart like you. He will send you somebody who wants the very thing you lwant in life and who will speak the vows that God designed to be spoken in a Christian wedding. If he can't agree to with the Christian vows I have an issue because if problems ever arouse it's not for better or worse, It's I see you later he will not be as willing to work through and try to my it work because he don't value Christian standards. Please don't settle.
2007-02-05 15:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by db3/1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people figure this out while they are still dating, because they don't want to compromise their values, morals, and religion - all part of what makes them who they are. Your biggest thing to actually deal with is how you are going to raise your children - you need to talk this over really seriously.
Your "Big Church Wedding" isn't in the cards if you marry him; time to find a JP. You need to evaluate how much your religion means to you personally....
2007-02-05 08:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not religious at all but wanted the big fairytale wedding. We had a civil ceremony in a hotel and it was amazing. I still had the big dress and cake and bridesmaids. And the bonus was we saved money on cars as we had the whole day there - the wedding and the reception, then stayed the night.
2007-02-05 01:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
We had an exceedingly small religious ceremony. basically celebrated our seventh wedding ceremony anniversary. we are on the prompt starting up to devise a vow renewal for our 10th wedding ceremony anniversary, i understand 3 years away yet commence early and keep money I say, and it will be a religious ceremony besides, in spite of the undeniable fact that quite different than our wedding ceremony.
2016-10-17 05:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared -- this is the first of many serious problems with being in a serious relationship with someone who doesn't share your faith. Discuss now how you will raise kids, whether or not you'll get them baptised, whether or not you will go to church every Sunday, whether or not he should attend church with you on Easter/Christmas, or whether or not you'll even celebrate Easter/Christmas. Don't compromise your religious beliefs or other things that are important to you!
2007-02-05 02:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by wnk 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i married both times in a church, my 2nd husband is a non believer, and even told the vicar that, being a christian in her view was not necessarily believing there is a god, but believing there is something that cant always be explained, and also the way you lead your life, there are plenty of people who are regular church goers who treat other people dreadful and judge others
2007-02-05 02:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bible says that two should not be unequally yoked.
You should really focus on bringing him to Christ before you start planning a wedding.
Why would you want to put your beliefs on the shelf?
You lost your "Big White Church Wedding", when you decided to marry an Atheist.
Try to talk to him about God and Christianity, if that fails, then get married with a Civil Ceremony.
2007-02-05 02:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by marnan97 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
You have got yourself a dilemma. I am not judging (I was in the same situation myself but she came into faith and we have been happily married almost 40 years) but Scripture does tell you not to be unequally yoked.
Love, I know, is powerful, but you will have two different centres to your lives if your faith really matters to you.
Thinkk seriiously about it. Either way, you will be in my prayers.
2007-02-05 01:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by alan h 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋