I'm 20 years old and have just married my partner, and loving life in general really. I'm about to start my nirsing studies. This isn't really a problem but it feels it.
I'm so broody all I can think about is starting a family. Both myself and my husband want children and I know I should have a good job before I start our family.
My husband has a great job and is very secure, we are just about to move into a lovely new house, and it's like a siren in my head about children! The silly thing is, is that I've never really been around children, and I know that it would be the hardest thing in the world to do, but my heart is going mad!
It's one of these situations where I really want my head to rule my heart, any tips for curving this broodiness???
2007-02-05 01:52:03 · 14 answers · asked by joanna b 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i no exactly what you mean ! . . erm well nothing will curb it realy, if you want kids then youwill want them and that's that, but you can choose to put it to the back of your head, get in as much babysitting as posible, with children of all ages, and get your job, then you already have a place to go back to when you do have kids and there off to school, plus you'll have some first hand experince of the good the bad and the not so fantasic side of parenting. . .
2007-02-05 02:16:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal after you get married and things are going this well for you to want to start a family. Here's my suggestion:
Get a puppy. Puppies are extremely difficult to train and will show you the type of patience it will take to have a child. That's what my hubby MADE me do before we children, and I'll tell you what. I THOUGHT i was ready at 22 to have a child, but quickly changed my mind when the puppy was driving me mad.
Look at it this way ..... you're only 20 yrs old. Enjoy this new chapter in your life with just you and your hubby and the new house. You'll soon have a new job it sounds like too. Good luck to you and congratulations on marrying your sweetheart :)
2007-02-05 10:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of 2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too young and have a loooooong way ahead of you. There are things that will be very difficult to do when you have kids,studying being one of them. Being a mother is not the hardest thing to do, it is the most satisfying feeling a woman could get but it needs a lot of devotion, sacrifice and selflessness
Get your degree first and look at it this way.... 18 years from now, when your kids are settled, where will you be standing if you don't have a degree
2007-02-05 11:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by Elliem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nesting instinct is a very strong drive. You are young and will have a long time to have children so don't give in to the need to start before you are really ready. The best thing is to talk with your partner about it and come to one mind about the right time to start. You should both be ready to do it. You might come to the realization that this is the time for you.
Good luck!
2007-02-05 10:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy your time with your partner! 20 is so young. I'm only 23 and my son is a year and a half. My husband and I love him to death, but we really wish we had waited longer. There are so many things we want to do together that we're going to have to put off for years, until our boy's big enough to go too.
And quite frankly, having a baby will test the strongest relationship. Wait until you're a little more settled in your marriage and your new home to do it.
2007-02-05 10:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Trisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and finish getting your nursing degree. But if you get a job your just gonna leave it when your about 7 or 8 months pregnant so you can rest for the last part of your pregnancy and be at home with the baby. If your worried about being a good parent then once you get pregnant, take parenting classes. They teach you alot!!
2007-02-05 10:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by JeffHardy4Eva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest getting your nursing degree, saving up about $10,000 and then thinking about having a child. I know so many people in my university who got pregnant (either intentionally or unintentionally) during their degree and almost all of them dropped out. One stayed in full time and one stayed in part time.
I think this is one of those things where your head SHOULD rule your heart. To curb this, try babysitting small children, working in a daycare centre, or volunteering at your local school. Sometimes doing a bit of "mothering" will help out.
2007-02-05 12:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could volenteer at the local YMCA, or any other chain for helping children like the boys and girls club. that way you would be with children, but not your own. Also its a very important job, but it comes to you while your going thru it. I had my first child 2 1/2 years ago and it just literly came natural. the mother's intuition is real nice
2007-02-05 11:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by lilred25smc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish school first. You are still very young and have pleanty of time. I went through the same maternal feelings around the same age. I got a pet. Is this something you and your husband could consider? Getting a puppy or kitty allows you to kind of use your maternal instinct. Worked for me.
2007-02-05 10:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by kittynala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the world a favor, read through some of these question and if you find yourself saying, "I was wondering the same thing." Then you are not ready to be a parent.
2007-02-05 10:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by You cant handle the truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋