We have been together 5 years. At times we are real calm and we get along very well. but other times she just starts thinking that im cheating on her or am going to cheat on her because she has a hard time trusting me.
2007-02-05 01:47:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your girlfriend sounds like me some years back. I had come out of a bad relationship and found it really hard to trust my new boyfriend.
It's hard to explain why she gets so jealous and deep down she's probably aware that you are being faithful, but because of her issues, she's very fearful of being hurt again and is probably incapable of thinking rationally.
The only thing you can do is stay calm not react to her suspicians and reassure her.
In saying that, I do think that 5 years of this is way too long and she should have been able to get beyond her fears by now.
Have you two considered couples counselling or relationship therapy? If you are serious about each other, maybe its the only way forward.
2007-02-05 01:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first step is to communicate, and let her know what the problems is and talk about it. I would tell her like look this is an issue, you need to trust me, because if theres no trust in a relationship, this can get worse than what it is now, then thats when the argueing comes into place. I would let her know like that was your past, this is your future. We been together for a while and i wouldnt do anything to hurt you. She needs to believe in your, and if she has a hard time trusting you, why is she with you?
2007-02-05 01:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by lefteye w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be CONSISTENT. People get nervous when you change your behavior. Something as simple as beginning to stay late at work or going out and getting a new cologne can make a woman nervous. If you maintain a regular schedule (as much as possible) and dont' engage in any behavior (like going out ot the club all night with your buddies or not answering your cell phone at certain times) that would really challenge her ability to trust then she will trust you more and more as time goes on. Remember though.. it is HER issue and she really needs to get over it.
2007-02-12 17:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is be patient with her. i can relate to this question because my partner of 4 years recently cheated on me and i now have a one year old daughter to look after.
I think that as long as you dont lie to her and show her how much you love her everyday that will help. evryone goes through phases of worrying that there bf of gf is or will cheat but reassure her that you love her and that you wouldnt do that.
make sure you let her know everyday how much you love her, it really helps and if you show less affection to her she will worry that something is going on. its a tough one to answer but hopefully you will get through this patch. Issues from the past can very easily be brought back to the surface by even the smallest thing... a comment, something you did or do can get her thinking about it because it may remind her of something her ex did in relation to the cheating.
Good luck!
2007-02-05 01:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by ciara_e2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past relationships, especially when they've been negative, tend to stick in our minds and hearts for a long time, sometimes forever. Women are a little more prone to the bad effect of past deceptions then we are, especially because they are so romantically inclined. Don't feel that she doesn't trust you; she doesn't trust her own judgment but will never admit it. If you take into consideration my definition of true love, then maybe her lack of 'trust' won't be so hard on you. [Love is the ability to embrace the qualities and defects of your partner and to help them achieve their full potential in benefit of themselves and the relationship.] Through patience, tolerance, understanding, rationalization and civility you'll be able to demonstrate to her, through good examples of your conduct, that you are one to be trusted. Be constant and proactive to reap positive results! Good luck.
2007-02-05 02:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just has to learn that everyone deserves to be trusted until they give u a reason not to but u just have to prove to her that u can be trusted in ways that she wont even think of and im willing to bet that she'll start realizing that if she doesnt want to lose u then she'll start trusting u because what is a realtionship without trust?
2007-02-05 01:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by gurl_balla14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time and show her you are not like everyone else and she will finally warm up to you
most women think like this......once a cheater....always a cheater.
and it is hard to get over being done wrong and you have to keep that close in your mind and look for warning signs for it, so you can protect yourself from happening again. It is just her way of protecting herself
2007-02-12 19:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to work on her own issues, are you talking with her, about the trust issues within your relationship with her?
2007-02-05 01:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure u guys a gr8 for each other,,...thats y u've stuck with each other for 5 yrs...if she has issues trusting u, u need to talk to her...tell her that she is the only one for u and that u love only her...girls need reassurance all the time...be patient with her...im sure she loves u a lot
2007-02-05 01:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋